7 Reasons Why College Relationships Don't Work

7 Reasons Why College Relationships Don't Work

Everyone seems to think their prince charming is somewhere on their campus.

Most of us have gone on plenty of dates throughout college trying to find love. Everyone tells us that we will find happily ever after with a significant other we meet on campus. Unfortunately, that doesn't happen for all of us. We may even have someone back at home that we have been dating for a while and things get in the way. Here are seven reasons why college relationships don't last in today's society.

1. Distance

Whether you are on campus with each other or you are on different campuses, distance is a huge issue. You either spend too much time with each other or not enough.

2. Time

So much goes on in college including classes, activities, sports, homework and everything in between. Often couples can't find enough time to be with each other, or at least even talk to each other if the significant other is not on campus.

3. Internet/Online Dating Sites

There are so many online dating sites today and anyone can join them. Tinder, POF, Match, e Harmony and other sites people can join without their significant other knowing. Rather than telling the significant other they are unhappy, they cheat on popular dating sites.

4. Cheating

Girls and boys alike in college are all just looking to have a good time. Which can mean one night stands and sexting. This could mean cheating on someone you may be in a relationship with, especially if your performance in bed is not good or even pleasing to your partner sexually.

5. Romance is dead.

In romantic movies, one significant other brings the other flowers, chocolates, surprises them and many other random spontaneous acts of love. You never hear about any of that anymore. Those surprises don't happen in real life or they aren't popular to do anymore.

6. Too many differences.

There are couples who fall in love at first sight and then find out that they have nothing in common. If there are no similarities between couples, then there will be no compatibility.

7. Immaturity

Boys and girls both have their immaturity. The statistics say that girls are more mature than boys, even if they are the same age. If one person is more mature than the other, then the likely-hood is that it will not last.

If you are able to survive all these problems and land the love of your dreams, then good for you! You are the few of us who will have luck finding true love in college. Don't worry though! Prince Charming will sweep you off your feet soon enough, just not maybe during those college years. Focus on your school work and making yourself known to others and build your resume. Find true love when it comes to you!

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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.

Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

Growing up is scary, but it can also be fun. As we take the last few steps in the hallways of our school, take it all in. Remember, it's okay to be happy; it's okay to be totally excited. But also remember it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be sentimental. It's okay to be scared, too. It's okay to feel all these confusing emotions that we are feeling. The best thing about the bittersweet end to our high school years is that we are finally slowing down our busy lives enough to remember the happy memories.

Try not to get annoyed when your mom starts showing your baby pictures to everyone she sees, or when your dad starts getting aggravated when you talk about moving out and into your new dorm. They're coping with the same emotions we are. Walk through the halls remembering the classes you loved and the classes you hated. Think of the all great times that have happened in our high school years and the friends that have been made that will never be forgotten. We all say we hated school, but we really didn't. Everything is about to change; that's a happy thing, and a sad thing. We all just have to embrace it! We're ready, but we're not...

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Is Long-Distance Worth it in College?

Summer is upon us and you and your boo must part ways. Do you continue the relationship and try long distance or do you give up?


Finals are finished, the stress is gone, and it is now summertime.

Sweet, sweet summertime. It's also time to go back to your hometown and leave your boo. If you're currently in a relationship and have to part ways for the summer, do you continue to work things out long distance, or let go of the relationship? Having been in a previous long distance relationship for two years, I want to offer the real truth about long distance for those who are wondering.

Obviously, long distance relationships are HARD. Especially in college. It is important to have a serious talk with your partner, and weigh out the pros and cons. How far apart will you be? Plane rides or road trips? How many times a month do you want to plan to see each other? Do you both trust one another?

I do not think long distance is impossible for two college students. If you care about someone enough, you will make it work no matter what. My advice is, if you have the slightest amount of doubt, maybe long distance wouldn't be the best thing for you and your significant other.

You must prepare for lonely days and only communicating through cell phones. FaceTime will be your best friend. Send each other care packages, or things that remind you of them. It's important to let your person know that you're still there and that you still care for them. You'll also have to get used to doing things alone. Find a new hobby and make some new friends. It is crucial to get comfortable being by yourself, because you can no longer call your partner and do every single thing with them.

Something that always helped me was scheduling days to see each other. We would mark them in our calendars and count down. Technology is so advanced today, long distance relationships are way easier than they've ever been. My boyfriend and I would schedule "FaceTime dates", which were specific times we would free up for each other to talk. We'd also watch movies together on Netflix! We'd find a movie to watch, start the movie at the same time, and text each other about the movie while watching it.

I'm the type of person who sees things in black and white, however. I think that if the connection is strong enough and two people care about each other enough, long distance shouldn't be an issue. We're adults now, and if you cannot consistently communicate with someone and manage to make time for them, then maybe you are not ready for a long distance relationship. Long distance requires maturity, patience, and good time management. Don't listen to the nay-sayers that tell you it isn't possible. Anything is possible for two people that love and care for each other.

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