6 Ways To Better Yourself

6 Ways To Better Yourself

There is no challenge more difficult than the challenge to improve yourself.

We've all made mistakes in our lives. There are things each person regrets, and there are things each person is proud of. As we continue to progress with our lives, we learn more about who we are and what we want out of life. No one's perfect. We all have room for personal growth, albeit in different ways. Here's some ways to better yourself and live a more fulfilling life:

1. Listen.

To really show someone respect, you have to listen to what they are saying. This means letting go of any preconceived notions or prejudices and sincerely giving your time and understanding to those around you. Don't listen with the intent to reply, but listen with the intent to understand. By listening and understanding what those around you have to say, you learn new things, gain new perspectives, and have new experiences. Listening to what others have to say is an art that involves putting your ego aside and putting others before yourself.

2. Don't make excuses.

Blaming others, pointing fingers, and making excuses in life will get you nowhere. We all make mistakes. It takes courage to admit them, own them, and learn from them. Excuses and lies are separated by a fine line, and an individual who constantly relies on excuses is only setting themselves up for failure. Learn to make efforts, not excuses.

3. Give what you can.

The only way we can make this world a better place is by acting with kindness in all aspects of life. Anything that goes towards helping others is never a waste. We lift ourselves by helping others rise, and a heart that gives is a heart that gathers.

4. Educate yourself.

Take the time to understand what is going on in the world around you, and let go of preconceived notions you may have that are not based in fact. Ignorance breeds hatred, distrust and frustration. It isolates humans from each other and detracts from the true essence of humanity. Education and understanding promote interconnectedness; awareness produces well-roundedness. Knowledge allows you to understand viewpoints different from your own.

5. Be yourself, love who you are.

An original is always worth more than a copy. You cannot be accepted and understood by others if you do not accept yourself. Pretending to be someone you are not will wear you out mentally and emotionally, and allow for feelings of self-loathing to harbor. Being yourself and accepting that individual allows you to add value to who you are. Trusting in that, forgiving yourself for the mistakes you have made, and loving who you are will enable you to empower yourself.

6. Be thankful.

Life isn't fair, and it's most definitely not perfect. There's always going to be people who have more than you, who you envy, who seem to have it together so much more than you. But there are always going to be people who think that about you. There is always, always, always something to be thankful for. Never forget the things you already have in light of the things that you want. Wake up every day being thankful for simply being alive. Go to sleep at night being thankful for having another night to sleep. Be thankful for friends, for family, for freedom and for everything else that you have--take nothing for granted and you will be happy.

Every day is a new beginning, an opportunity to for you to be better than the person you were yesterday.

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6 Things You Should Know About The Woman Who Can't Stand Modern Feminism

Yes, she wants to be heard too.


2018 is sort of a trap for this woman. She believes in women with all of the fire inside of her, but it is hard for her to offer support when people are making fools of themselves and disguising it as feminism.

The fact of the matter is that women possess qualities that men don't and men possess qualities that women don't. That is natural. Plus, no one sees men parading the streets in penis costumes complaining that they don't get to carry their own fetus for nine months.

1. She really loves and values women.

She is incredibly proud to be a woman.

She knows the amount of power than a woman's presence alone can hold. She sees when a woman walks into a room and makes the whole place light up. She begs that you won't make her feel like a "lady hater" because she doesn't want to follow a trend that she doesn't agree with.

2. She wants equality, too

She has seen the fundamental issues in the corporate world, where women and men are not receiving equal pay.

She doesn't cheer on the businesses that don't see women and men as equivalents. But she does recognize that if she works her butt off, she can be as successful as she wants to.

3. She wears a bra.

While she knows the "I don't have to wear a bra for society" trend isn't a new one, but she doesn't quite get it. Like maybe she wants to wear a bra because it makes her feel better. Maybe she wears a bra because it is the normal things to do... And that's OK.

Maybe she wants to put wear a lacy bra and pretty makeup to feel girly on .a date night. She is confused by the women who claim to be "fighting for women," because sometimes they make her feel bad for expressing her ladyhood in a different way than them.

4. She hates creeps just as much as you do. .

Just because she isn't a feminist does not mean that she is cool with the gruesome reality that 1 in 5 women are sexually abused.

In fact, this makes her stomach turn inside out to think about. She knows and loves people who have been through such a tragedy and wants to put the terrible, creepy, sexually charged criminals behind bars just as bad as the next woman.

Remember that just because she isn't a feminist doesn't mean she thinks awful men can do whatever they want.

5. There is a reason she is ashamed of 2018's version of feminism.

She looks at women in history who have made a difference and is miserably blown away by modern feminism's performance.

Not only have women in the past won themselves the right to vote, but also the right to buy birth control and have credit cards in their names and EVEN saw marital rape become a criminal offense.

None of them dressed in vagina costumes to win anyone over though... Crazy, right?

6. She isn't going to dress in a lady parts costume to prove a point.

This leaves her speechless. It is like the women around her have absolutely lost their minds and their agendas, only lessening their own credibility.

"Mom, what are those ladies on TV dressed up as?"

"Ummm... it looks to me like they are pink taco's honey."

She loves who she is and she cherished what makes her different from the men around her. She doesn't want to compromise who she is as a woman just so she can be "equal with men."

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The End Of The Walker Era: Wisconsin Chooses Divided Government

Superintendent of Public Instruction Tony Evers will take over in Madison in January.


I was reminded of the enmity of our politics in a peculiar way the other day. As one of but a handful of Midwestern transplants to the South, I normally take note when I recognize someone from my home region. Such was the case when I noticed a girl donning a Milwaukee Brewers baseball cap.

"Oh, so you're from Wisconsin?" I asked her, eager to engage on a hearty banter about cheese, beer, brats, and the like.

"No, but my dad is. We're celebrating the results of the Wisconsin governor's election."

A strange way to make a political statement indeed. After all, of all the things a Brewers cap could symbolize (they did just come one game short of the World Series after all) she had chosen politicization.

But the best part? As she had said, she wasn't from Wisconsin. She was from North Carolina.

Such are the attitudes that Gov. Scott Walker has managed to engender in his eight years in office. A polarizing figure that had already run the race three times before, becoming the first governor in American history to survive a recall attempt in 2012, Walker has garnered a special place in the heart of conservatives for standing up to unions, and a special contempt from Democrats for doing much the same.

But Walker's defeat in the most recent gubernatorial election is an indicator of a lot more than merely his actions. After all, Walker's signature piece of legislation that dismantled union power, Act 10, was signed into law his first year in office, 2011. Wisconsinites had attempted to punish him for doing so in the recall in 2012 and again during the general election in 2014. Both times they failed to do so.

No, Walker's defeat in the here and now is much more about the nationalization (or the newfound parliamentary nature of American politics as I recently saw a pundit point out) of his race and his state than any action taken by Walker himself. After all, Walker just recently inked a deal with the Taiwanese Foxconn to build a massive production plant in the southeastern Wisconsin area. Unemployment has been at record lows and the budget hasn't been a concern in virtually all of the Walker era.

No, Walker's defeat is, as much of American politics is, about Trump.

My colleague from North Carolina makes it apparent: there remains a deep displeasure with Walker in Wisconsin politics. And while this may have served his opponent, state Superintendent of Public Instruction Tony Evers, with a magnificent starting point, it was hardly the sole reasoning of his downfall. Perhaps it was an unwillingness of Walker to stand up passionately to Trump (a fault of many modern Republicans), but independents turned on Walker this election cycle like they never had before.

And it wasn't just Wisconsin. Republican gubernatorial candidates in Michigan and Illinois, states where Republicans had held those seats, lost their bids too. Gov. Kim Reynolds of Iowa almost joined them. Walker's loss might be heralded by many a Milwaukee or Madison liberal as just comeuppance, but it's much bigger than that. It's all much bigger than that.

I'll make no equivocations. I was a supporter of Gov. Walker. In my eyes, he dismantled a politicized machine that served the Democratic Party more than it served Wisconsin workers. His right-to-work legislation, allowing workers to decide if they want to be in unions and not the other way around, was a huge win for individual liberty. The castle doctrine allows similar freedoms in giving citizens the ability of self-defense in their own homes. And now Foxconn will soon begin operations, a massive contributor to employment in Wisconsin.

Granted, none of these measures come without controversy, but I think it is difficult to say that Wisconsin is not better in terms of personal and economic freedom now then it was prior to Walker's administration.

But so, things ebb and flow. There was every possibility that Walker would lose, just as there is every possibility that Governor-elect Evers will lose in 2022. Such is the nature of the democratic process. But for now, with a still Republican-controlled legislature, the people of Wisconsin have chosen a house divided.

Let's hope we can keep moving forward.

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