Overthinking in general is one of the worst things you can do to yourself. But overthinking in relationships can be detrimental to your mental health.

You think about literally everything in twice as much detail as anyone else. It is painful, annoying, and makes your brain want to explode. If you are not an over thinker then you may not want to read this for two reasons.

The first, you wont relate to any of it.

The second, you will probably think I sound psycho and that may be true but I know I am not alone. So read at your own risk, here are 6 things an over thinker overthinks in relationships:

1. Texting

You can’t simply just send a normal text you have to plan out exactly what to say perfectly. You send screenshots to your friends asking which option is better and ultimately you don’t even send it because you have thought through how the entire conversation will go and you just don’t see a happy ending. You also never want to be the first to text because what if you’re annoying him or he doesn’t want to see your name pop on your phone.

So ultimately you just don’t text him and once again have thought way too deeply about the three letter word, “Hey.”

2. Casual conversations

To someone who doesn’t overthink, the conversation you just had with your crush was completely normal and good but to you, it’s a whole other story. You begin to read into every word that was said and thinking about the meaning.

He could’ve said, “You look nice tonight.”

And you would think he doesn’t think you look nice any other night and then you think about how from now on you have to wear that same color shirt because apparently, it’s the only time you look nice.

3. Snapchat

The streak ends and you automatically think he hates you. Its over before it even began. You clearly upset him in some way or he just isn’t feeling it but you’re a strong independent woman so you don’t ask any questions or reach out because you don’t need to deal with anyone who doesn’t want to reach out. Often what we don’t realize is they are just as concerned as we are to reach out but we are too busy overthinking ourselves to understand that.

4. The "talking phase"

You could be talking to the nicest most normal guy but you still think he’s playing a game with you. He could say, “We should hang out sometime.”

And you begin to think about how he is just saying that to say it and doesn’t actually want to hang out with you, he just wants to mess with you and make you think he wants to. Because why else would anyone say they want to hang out with you?

5. How they act around you

Are they happy, sad, excited, we don’t know because we can’t simply pick up a vibe we have to overanalyze every single thing they do or say. Immediately when they stop talking to you and walk away you think to yourself, “Welp its over, that’s it.” When in reality he went to use the restroom for literally five minutes.

6. Are they into someone else?

You may not be in a committed relationship but you still have a crush on this guy and no matter what you say its frustrating when they talk to other girls for many reasons.

You may think to yourself, are they just friends, are they flirting, did he already forget about you?

The questions roll through your brain. The worst is when they are somewhere you aren’t and all you think about all night into the next day is if they are with another girl. You lay in bed and constantly refresh Snapchat to see if there are any stories from anyone he may be with or from your crush himself.