All of us have probably experienced some type of heartbreak in our lives. It is important to remember, though, that we can become better people because of that hurt. Here are six thank you's to the person that broke me.

1. Thank you for hurting me to the point that I felt unrepairable.

Because guess what? I made it through every night crying in bed with my best friends by my side until eventually I was out dancing and having fun with those same friends who gave me such a good time, you never even crossed my mind. You gave me some of the worst memories of my life, but ones that I no longer have to relive because I’ve healed and I am capable of standing on my own two feet now.

2. Thank you for reminding me that I needed you.

Because I taught myself that I did not. Something everyone else constantly reminded me, but of course I was way too accustomed to life by your side to realize that myself. I do not need you. I do not need anyone and you making me think that I did made me learn that lesson. So for that, I am forever grateful because now I don’t allow anyone to think that I need them or their approval for that matter.

3. Thank you for treating me like I wasn’t a priority.

Because I am my own priority, I am my No. 1 and all I need. You showed me that when you’d leave me to the side and make me feel unimportant. Thankfully, with time, I managed to open my eyes and realize that it is my own duty to put myself first. I take myself out, I treat myself and no one will ever treat me as poorly as you did. I definitely know how much better I deserve now and I won’t be reaching that low again.

4. Thank you for blaming me.

I know better now. I know that the mental and physical abuse wasn’t my fault, and I know that I did not ask for any of it. In the end, all I have are lessons learned and life experiences that I never want to repeat. I know now that I shouldn’t have accepted the “love” that you gave me and that it shouldn’t come with rules and restrictions.

5. Thank you for everything.

Every little thing that you did to me back then made me the much stronger and confident as hell person that I am today. Trust me, I have gotten every single one of your drunk and sober texts. Every one of your “I miss you” and “I love you” ones. They just add to my confidence level and I refuse to let you back in because now, I finally know my self-worth.

6. Thank you for teaching me that I deserve much better.

You are the worst thing that has happened to me, but thanks to you, I became the best for myself. Unfortunately, it came with way too much pain and heartache, but I am a better me for myself now.