6 Reasons Why Focusing On Yourself Is The Most Important Thing Of All

6 Reasons Why Focusing On Yourself Is The Most Important Thing Of All

Because sometimes you have to put yourself first.

Often times in my life, I find myself putting more importance on other people and things rather than myself. The truth is, you are important. Focusing on yourself is important. Making sure you are happy and taken care of is important. Don't believe me? Here are some reasons why:

1. Focusing on others can keep you from accomplishing your goals.

We all have goals we want to accomplish in our life, but putting others needs in front of ours all the time can most definitely impact this. Relationships with other people are important, especially for me, but there has to be balance. If you don't put yourself first at least some of the time, your goals and aspirations can get lost in the madness of life. Keep those aspirations alive. You've got this! Make them happen!

2. Being single is FUN!

My single years have been some of the best years of my life. You know why? Because you don't need to worry about anyone else. You can just do your own thing and have fun with it! So get out there and do you!

3. You can finally have the time to figure things out.

I feel very frazzled and displaced without having my time every week to sit down and figure things out. This can mean anything. For me, it's my meal prep for the week, writing my articles, completing homework, or maybe even watching my favorite TV show just to wind down. You can also use this time to pay bills or budget for the month, just so you feel a little more put together than you felt before.

4. You can keep your emotions in-check.

Emotional stability is so important. Focusing on yourself and doing something for you can greatly increase your emotional stability. This can really be anything as long as it is something that winds you down or relaxes you. Even if it's taking five minutes at work to breathe, it will help you get through the rest of the day.

5. Focusing on you actually improves your relationships with others.

It's true! The more confident and respectful you feel about yourself, the more that is going to radiate off of you onto others. Your friends and family will see this, and in turn will respond positively. It's true what they say...you have to love yourself before you can love others.

6. You will find happiness.

It may seem like a long shot to you, but I promise it works. Spending time with yourself will help you discover things you never knew. Maybe you actually enjoy reading, but you have never just read for fun so you didn't know. For me, it was writing. I take time every day I can to just write. This helps me expel my feelings and move on with my life. I find myself to be happier every day, and you can too!

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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My Clothing Size Doesn't Define Me, Yours Shouldn't Either

Why my jean size won't determine my self-worth.


How many times have you gone into a clothing store and come out feeling like shit about yourself? I know I have, on numerous occasions. I got so pissed off at the way that I felt clothing brands/manufacturers kept making sizes "Alice in Wonderland" smaller, while clearly, I wasn't getting bigger.

Last summer, I went to one of my favorite stores at my local mall, and I left nearly in tears. Why didn't I fit into this size of jeans in this store? I fit into this same size in another store. What's going on here? Am I losing my mind?

After that experience, I decided that from that point forward, I would not let myself get worked up and stressed out over the sizing label on a pair of jeans—my clothing size doesn't define me. The inch measurements of my waist will not ever be relevant as to whether or not I am kind, smart, or freaking amazing at Karaoke (and I crush a good Stevie Nicks' song, by the way). My clothing size has absolutely no bearing on whether or not I add value to someone's life, or if I'm genuinely a good person.

Your clothing size should not ever define how you see yourself either. So what? You're a size 00—that doesn't mean that you're "nothing" or that you "look sickly skinny." So what? You're a size 16, or 18, or 22—that doesn't mean that you're "ugly" or "too big" or "not enough," or any of the other lies that society would have any of us believe about ourselves.

Society loves to put women in their place, and what better way to do this than to have us believe that because we wear size fill-in-the-blank jeans, that we are automatically "too small" or "too big." The problem is not with any one of us—the problem is with society and the fact that making women feel uncomfortable in their bodies have become the norm. I will never let the size of my jeans ever define how I see myself, and you shouldn't either.

As cliché and "Instagram hashtag" worthy as the old saying goes, it's actually true: Love yourself. In a culture that relies on women (and men, too), hating ourselves, it's absolutely critical for each and every one of us to accept ourselves exactly as we are.

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