6 Reasons Why Focusing On Yourself Is The Most Important Thing Of All

6 Reasons Why Focusing On Yourself Is The Most Important Thing Of All

Because sometimes you have to put yourself first.

Often times in my life, I find myself putting more importance on other people and things rather than myself. The truth is, you are important. Focusing on yourself is important. Making sure you are happy and taken care of is important. Don't believe me? Here are some reasons why:

1. Focusing on others can keep you from accomplishing your goals.

We all have goals we want to accomplish in our life, but putting others needs in front of ours all the time can most definitely impact this. Relationships with other people are important, especially for me, but there has to be balance. If you don't put yourself first at least some of the time, your goals and aspirations can get lost in the madness of life. Keep those aspirations alive. You've got this! Make them happen!

2. Being single is FUN!

My single years have been some of the best years of my life. You know why? Because you don't need to worry about anyone else. You can just do your own thing and have fun with it! So get out there and do you!

3. You can finally have the time to figure things out.

I feel very frazzled and displaced without having my time every week to sit down and figure things out. This can mean anything. For me, it's my meal prep for the week, writing my articles, completing homework, or maybe even watching my favorite TV show just to wind down. You can also use this time to pay bills or budget for the month, just so you feel a little more put together than you felt before.

4. You can keep your emotions in-check.

Emotional stability is so important. Focusing on yourself and doing something for you can greatly increase your emotional stability. This can really be anything as long as it is something that winds you down or relaxes you. Even if it's taking five minutes at work to breathe, it will help you get through the rest of the day.

5. Focusing on you actually improves your relationships with others.

It's true! The more confident and respectful you feel about yourself, the more that is going to radiate off of you onto others. Your friends and family will see this, and in turn will respond positively. It's true what they say...you have to love yourself before you can love others.

6. You will find happiness.

It may seem like a long shot to you, but I promise it works. Spending time with yourself will help you discover things you never knew. Maybe you actually enjoy reading, but you have never just read for fun so you didn't know. For me, it was writing. I take time every day I can to just write. This helps me expel my feelings and move on with my life. I find myself to be happier every day, and you can too!

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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Stand In The Mirror

An exercise in self-love.


If you're reading this, then I want you to stop what you're doing right now, get up from wherever you're sitting, and go stand in the mirror.

Yes, that's right. Close your laptops, put down your phones, and walk to the closest bathroom, or vanity, or wherever else you can see your reflection the most clearly. Pretend like you're the only person in the world for a little while.

Are you there? Good.

Now I want you to look at yourself, very closely.

Start with your eyes. How beautiful they look underneath the light; you can see all their colors, just like a painting! Something that unique belongs in an art museum, don't you think?

Those eyes of yours have seen so many wonderful things. Think of all the sunsets they've allowed you to witness, all the times your best friends have grinned from ear-to-ear and all the books you've read.

Now, look at your lips. Think of all the lovely people they may have kissed, all the Thanksgiving dinners they've touched and all the funny faces they've helped you express.

Think all of the times they've opened to exude laughter and joy, to express awe and other associated feelings words cannot express.

Now it's time to examine your arms. Shrug your shoulders and admire the way they fall so gently at your sides, like water flowing from the mouth of a river. Think of all the wonderful things they've helped you to reach, of all the trees they've helped you climb and monkey bars they've helped you swing through. Think of all the people they've hugged, and all the dogs they've helped you pet.

Finally, move to your legs. Think of all the races they've helped you win, all the hurdles they've helped you jump through and all the lengths they've helped you swim.

Think of all the pristine places they've carried you to, and reflect upon all the places you'll soon be heading to.

Can't you see now that you're a masterpiece, dripping with color and beauty, emotion and experience, from every fiber of your being?

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