Coming from a family of five men, my mother and I were always outnumbered. Naturally, you would think I would grow up to be the biggest tomboy on the face of the planet, learning my whole life how to act as a “one of the guys,” along with my four brothers teaching me every step of the way. I think I was surrounded by boys so much growing up that I chose to seek friendship in the opposite light. Having a solid group of friends is one of the absolute most important parts of my well-being, along with family and basic survival needs.
I’m not saying everyone needs to have a giant group of friends who they’re with at all times in order to be happy and satisfied in life. It gets exhausting having to maintain important relationships where effort should be put in on both sides, and we all know that is not necessarily always the case. However, if you have even one of the friends mentioned in this article, consider yourself lucky. I’ve always appreciated and needed my best friends and each of them plays an important role in my life. Here are the 6 best friends you are incredibly lucky to have in your life.
1. Ride-or-dies
These girls would hate if I actually referred to them as my “ride or dies.” What I really mean is that they are my true OG girls who have been there through everything (starting in Kindergarten). Three separate colleges, various boyfriends, different careers, jobs, graduate school and everything else in between, this type of friend will still be an important and crucial member of your life each and every day. They will probably maintain a group text with you every day.
These conversations may only consist of work complaints and plans of eventually meeting up for a girls day, when you know you’re all too busy for the next calendar year, but you plan anyway. I say with complete confidence, I could not have made it to where I am today and be who I am today without these friends. The type of girls who you see and immediately revert back to being your incredibly weird 13 year old self, but it really doesn’t matter when you’re with these girls. These friends are special.
2. The college bestie turned bridesmaid
This is the friend who you met in college and you’re not really even sure how it started but you know she’s now in your life forever. Maybe she was your roommate or your sorority sister or just in all of the same classes as you, but this is the girl who you know is by your side no matter how close or far apart you are. You went through all of the ups and downs of college together, and now you’re ready to see what life has to bring for the future! This friend is the glue.
3. The “you just clicked” friend
This is the friend that you go straight from not knowing her to spending every single day with her. You may not have even liked her before you knew her well. This friend is someone you talk to every single day and even when you go your separate ways after college *sits down and cries for a few days straight* you still update each other to the very last minute of the day via text/snapchat. This is a friend that you always look forward to seeing because it’s never awkward or uncomfortable, it’s like you were meant to be friends even before you knew them! This friend is always there to keep you smiling.
4. The go-to best friend
This is the type of friend that you can go to for, quite literally, anything and everything. Not sure what shirt to wear for your interview in 30 minutes? Face-time this girl. Need to find where that random Instagram model you just stalked for 3 hours got her bikini? This girl has the link already saved for you. Can’t figure out what to say to your ex when he texts you out of the blue after 6 months of not talking? Call for reinforcement from this girl. This is the best type of friend you can make to help you whenever life gets just a little bit difficult and you know they’re always looking out for your well-being, and will have you slaying the game so much better than you could without her. This friend is necessary for getting you through your 20’s and beyond.
5. The go-to for a good time
This is a friend, maybe you met in high school or college, who is always down to go out and have a good time. What makes this friend special though, is that after so many nights of fending off creepy guys, waiting in endless bar bathroom lines and having drunken conversations about life together, you know this girl always has your back. Not only are they a good time and you know you’ll always have a story when you come back from hanging out, this is the friend who you know is going to be there even after you accidentally throw up in their purse on your 21st birthday. This friend is lit.
6. The therapist best friend
This is the friend who you really cannot be sure where or what you’d be doing now had she not been there for you. She’s been through a lot and has a really interesting perspective on life. She’s the friend who you can sit and not say anything and you feel better just being with her. This is the friend that you can show your true, inner self to and there is no judgement. This is the friend that will give you the push you need to get out of bed even when you think that’s impossible. This friend is important.
