Ah, distance. Long distance. The dreaded words almost every long-term couple will face at some point in their relationship. It sucks. Believe me, I know. So do the millions of others out there currently partaking in it, as well. Whether it's once a week, once a month, or even once a year- plain and simple, it's definitely not ideal.
Regardless, relationships can be hard work sometimes. Everyone knows that. And, unfortunately, distance can make them even harder. However, they're definitely not impossible. In fact, people who endure long distance relationships become stronger and happier -- as couples and individuals. How, you ask?
Here are six beneficial outcomes I've learned, and am learning, first-hand that a distance relationship can give you.
1. Communication.
Without communication, there is no relationship. Period. Everyone communicates differently, but being apart teaches you both to be more effective communicators, and communication is key to not only your relationship, but just about anything you do in life.
It makes sense, really -- it's hard not to want to talk to your loved one while you're apart- and thankfully in today's modern world there are plenty of ways to creatively do so.
2. Trust.
Trust is huge in any relationship, but especially in a long distance one. It comes easily to some and gradually to others. And sometimes, it can push you and your relationship to breaking points.
Regardless of what the future holds, a lot of what trust deals with is believing that what you and your partner have is real. Knowing that your bond is unlike anything else, and trusting that you two are holding onto your relationship for a reason.
Everyone will have their stalker moments. It's so easy these days with social media (Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, etc..). While you think it may help, the reality is you're snooping for a reason. Either communicate that, or let go and just trust in your partner. Trust that they love you even when they're not texting you or telling you their every move and whereabouts. You'll both find yourselves to be happier that way.
And when it's the right person, you'll find they make trust to be easier and second-nature. Once that trust endures the distance, your relationship will flourish.
3. Independence.
Your separate lives are what's keeping you apart- but part of that is not all bad. Following your own dreams and different passions is important in maintaining a balanced relationship.
Being apart will make you want to be with your loved one every second of every day- you'll ache for them, crave them, want to do everything with them- and that's great, to an extent. You learn the importance of maintaining your independence and individual hobbies by having a life, hanging out with friends, and busying yourself. Not just as a distraction, but for your own happiness and sanity. You end up having more to talk about and share with your partner, too.
4. Value of time.
You begin to understand the value of time. Your time together is limited, so you cherish every second you have together.
Breathe in their familiar scent. Hold their gaze a second longer. Grasp their hand a little tighter. Live in these moments, and every moment, so you can hold on to and remember them in each other's absence.
You will then begin to comprehend just how precious time really is in the grand scheme of things.
5. Plan for a future.
While distance proves challenging, you remain in the relationship for a reason. You both have something to look forward to that keeps you both going; the knowledge that one day, this will all be worth it. There's a light at the end of the distant tunnel. This creates conversations of envisioning a life together in the future, solidifying your love and feelings for each other even more.
6. Stronger relationship.
All of these things cumulatively strengthen your relationship, while you may not see it right now. One study even shows that distance relationships are stronger and more intimate than others because people grow in all of these areas, together and individually.
There will be times when all the missing just feels like too much for you to bear. That's when you remember why you're doing this. Remember that the little time you do have greatly outweighs no time at all. Continue to love them unconditionally, to keep making it work, and it won't seem as hard anymore.
Because when it's the right person, the distance eventually won't seem to matter, and it certainly won't last forever.





















