Everyone thinks that they are all capable of doing long distance relationship no matter if they just started dating or if they have been dating for years. But I am here to tell you that long distance relationships are something you have to work a whole lot harder than when you do when you are together. It is difficult even if you are an hour apart because you do not get the chance to be with them maybe as much as you want and do the couple things you want to do. So what happens when you had a couple hundred miles to the relationship? Well it just gets harder.
When you add a couple hundred miles you might only get to see your significant other every couple weeks and depending on the situation, it is every couple months. If you are traveling you have to save the money to fly out there and then if you decided to go out and do things you have to save for that stuff. You do not get the chance to just run to them every time you are upset and need some comforting, you do not get the help when you are sick of someone taking care of you and most of all you do not get the affection you desire at every given moment.
At the beginning it might not seem as hard but you still feel the pain of being so far away but as time goes on you realize how lonely you become, and counting down the days until you see each other again. You might start to think the good times together do not out weight the pain of being apart. Being in a distance relationship, you have to set time to talk to the other see how they are doing and check in. You would think with the technology today things would not be that hard but you realize that being apart you become busy and might not include them in your everyday life. You have to set distinct times to talk to each other and listen to each other.
So here you are a couple months or years into the distance thing and you begin to think if it is all worth it. If the amount you care for someone is enough to get through the distance that you are currently dealing with. To some it is that you are willing to work through the pain and know that at the end everything will be stronger than what it is not and to others the pain is to much to bear so you end feeling everything.
Now I am not saying all long distance relationships are going to end in a break up, that is just my experience. I do know a lot of people who have done the distance thing and ended up marrying their significant other. I am just saying before doing it consider everything that goes along with it. All the pain of being alone, the desire to be with someone even though you can't and knowing that you have to work almost harder at your relationship than you have at anything else. If you are currently doing long distance I hope nothing but the best for you.
