Being insecure sucks, plain and simple. There are doubts swarming your head every second and when you are in a relationship, the level of insecurity only increases. An insecure person never feels that they are really worth anything and people always say confidence is sexy, but no one really knows how hard it can truly be. In a relationship, your insecurities come out and it is near impossible to push them back down into oblivion.
If your boyfriend or even just the guy you like talks to another girl, texts another girl, is seen out with another girl or anything of the like, major sirens start going off in your head. You wonder if he thinks she's prettier, if he's going to cheat on you or even worse, has he already cheated? You begin to doubt everything in your relationship and why are you even dating.
Insecurity is a mosquito that never quite leaves you alone, always buzzing around and finding ways to show you he can do better and you can never be good enough. Swatting that mosquito is the dream, but it isn't as easy as people think. To overcome insecurity the individual has to be ridiculously determined and must understand they will fall many, many times. Personally, to overcome this monster more specifically in my relationship I have to just remind myself that my boyfriend does love me and I have to continue telling myself he won't cheat, even if I don't believe it. I also stop asking him if he loves me or if he wants to be dating me because that just takes a relationship backwards.
If he talks to other girls, they are just friends. If he wanted to be with them he would be, but he chose you and he wants you! He didn't ask them out, fall in love with them or introduce them to his family, he just had a brief conversation at a bar. If he hangs out with girls a lot or watches movies in their room, you just have to trust. Trust that he will be faithful the same way you always will be. One of the best ways to overcome insecurity in a relationship is just always think he will respond the way you will in a situation–if he proves otherwise, say good-bye, because he isn't worth it.
When having an insecure moment, just write down what's eating at you and if it is a major concern, bring it up with him, but if it is a fabrication of your mind and you are already creating scenarios in your head, it's best to leave it unsaid. It is true a guy is more attracted to the confident girl, but you should never feel guilty for being insecure. Don't change yourself for a guy, but act more confident because you're an awesome person! Whenever you get jealous or feel insecure remember that, and remember he's lucky to be dating someone like you–so why be insecure? It wastes time and energy and isn't worth the struggle. If you, even as dumb as it may be, make a list of all your amazing qualities, you will see insecurity is useless. He sees something great in you that you just haven't found yet, but as cliche and overused as it is, it really does help–fake it until you make it.
