5 Unexpected Effects Of Chronic Illness

5 Unexpected Effects Of Chronic Illness

It's not all bad, though.

There are some unexpected side effects of being chronically ill. Obviously, you have more doctor appointments, but, certain things pop up that you're unsure how to deal with.

1. Dating.

This is a BIG one. When do I tell him/her? Do I tell him/her sooner if this person is very serious? Will I look like a liar if I wait too long? It's something you have to disclose at some point, and it can depend on the person when you find that sweet spot. But finding the sweet spot is scary and anxiety inducing, no less how the person will respond. And this leads into our next bullet.

2. Insensitive questions.

Most people want to spread an awareness about whatever they have. The thing is, you know you're courteous - and you're not so sure about everyone else. People have said things to you and you're not sure how they can look at themselves in the mirror the next day. There's a part of you that wants to educate them and tell them their comments were outright wrong, but you also don't want to be confrontational. Its a hard place to be in, and it's even harder to navigate once you're in the middle of it.

3. Major life decisions.

Have a chronic illness? Well, it's going to be the uninvited third party in your relationship. It's going to be the unwanted life coach because you have to listen to it. It's going to try to take away what you love to do, and you need to find a compromise. It takes a while to compromise with yourself and find something that fits both you and your circumstance, but it's possible.

4. ... Minor life decisions.

Want to go for a walk later? Your body might have something to say about that. Want to see your best friend on Friday? You gotta consult with your chronic illness. On Friday morning. Like an hour before you see them.

5. Sleep. Sleep. Sleep.

It's suddenly much more coveted.

6. You realize who your true friends are.

They don't get tired of helping you. They check up on you. They can look at you and know you're having a bad day. People who can't deal with it leave your life in a huff or a slow rush, just because it's too much for them.

And that's OK. Because you know who your superstars are.

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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The Nike Controversy that Makes no Sense

Nike has been facing backlash recently, for reasons I just cannot understand.


Nike recently released a plus sized workout clothing line, equipped with beautiful plus size mannequins to advertise their brand. Instead of many in the fitness community rejoicing in this milestone, Nike is facing criticism because people believe that Nike is portraying unhealthy weight standards to their customers.

These individuals believe that the size that is portrayed by Nike's mannequins is obese, and as a result, is telling others that being a size like that is okay. Yet, the mannequins that are usually portrayed in Nike's stores, rarely represent body types of real people.

As I read these comments, I thought to myself – are these people crazy? Think about the men and women who have spent months, maybe even years, trying to lose enough weight just to fit into Nike's plus sized brand! As well, bigger women deserve clothes to work out in. It should not matter if they are "obese" they are working towards a healthier lifestyle.

The backlash being faced by Nike is the mentality that prevents many from even joining a gym. I can completely understand the fear an individual experiences when entering the gym, surrounded by people who look like fitness gods, and you feel like everybody is judging you. As if you do not belong in a gym.

I will never understand how creating more barriers for individuals will motivate others to exercise. In my own opinion, attractive workout clothes are more than enough to motivate me to get to the gym!

Do not let the mentality of fat-shaming, and others fear of a little jiggle prevent you from flaunting Nike's new style, and creating a healthier lifestyle for you

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