New relationships are always confusing and it's easy to get swept up in the moment, which is why you should take some time and think about it before making any big moves.
What exactly do you want right now?
Before you think about anything else, you need to know what type of relationship you want right now. Are you looking for a serious relationship or just something casual? “What are we” conversations are confusing no matter what, but knowing what you’re looking for before the conversation start will make it a lot easier.
Do you hangout or just hookup?
How often are you with this person other than late night hookups? Have you gone on anything resembling a real date or is it a strictly a “Netflix and chill” situation? There is a difference between hanging out and hooking up. If the majority of your time spent together is after dark in a dorm room bed, you might want to see what it’s like to spend time together during the day.
How long have you been seeing each other?
Have you been around each other long enough for you to decide to take things more seriously? How much do you know about this person? Time can tell a lot about a person; the longer you’re around them, the more you may start to notice things you don’t actually like, or maybe notice things you really do. Only time will tell!
Are you just friends?
Is there a romantic future available between the two of you? If a majority of your time is spent in larger groups of friends, see what it like to spend more alone-time as just the two of you and see if your chemistry is the same.
Are you rebounding?
When was your last relationship? If you’re going through a recent breakup, don’t push someone else to define your relationship as something more serious if you’re not totally ready. You could end up hurting them or yourself even more in the process. And understand if, for some reason, they aren’t ready for the steps you’re willing to take.
