5 Things That Being In A Relationship Has Taught Me About Guys

5 Things That Being In A Relationship Has Taught Me About Guys

Just to make things clear

The male species is a glorious thing. They are handy, logical (sometimes), and easy to get along with (most of the time). While men can make the argument that females are confusing and difficult to handle, men can also be difficult to understand as well. Because of the facts that most men are easygoing and do not express as much emotion as women, it can be very hard for a girl to completely understand a guy's thought process. Although that may be a blessing, it can also become a curse. Here are five things that being in a relationship has taught me about guys.

1.) Despite what people say, guys ARE sensitive!

Yes, boys do care about what people say to/about them, but only to an extent. If you are an important person in that guy's life, then odds are, they are more than likely going to listen to what you have to say. If you are just a random stranger, well......you get the idea.

2.) Guys like to be complimented just as much as girls do

Even though this should be self-explanatory, boys like to be complimented and appreciated just as much as us girls do. Whenever I get the chance, I always make sure I send a quick text to my boyfriend saying that he is "handsome" or that I "appreciate him". If you don't already do that, try it. You'd be amazed at just how happy it might make them. They won't ever tell you, but guys DO love it!

3.) When you ask guys, "what are you thinking?" and they say "nothing", they really mean NOTHING!

This notion is very simple......just don't complicate it. Us females like to overthink the word "nothing" when guys say this to us. I mean, they can't possibly be thinking about nothing.............can they? Well, I am here to clear the air.....yes, they are really thinking about nothing. I have learned to not stress out when my boyfriend says this to me. I just accept his response and move on.

4.) They really DO listen to you! (even when you think they aren't)

Guys do hear everything. Even when you think they aren't paying attention to you....they are. Guys have a different way of hearing things than we do. Boys like to be more observant....and more often not, not make any eye contact with you. The lack of eye contact is the main reason that us females think that guys never listen. However, boys hear the little things and to be completely honest, the little things are the things that we actually care about......well, at least in my opinion anyway.

5.) They may drive you crazy sometimes, but real men will love you for who you are

Men can be pretty amazing sometimes. Yes, they have their flaws, but they can turn out to be some of the kindest individuals you will ever meet. If you are dating a real man, they will always encourage you to be yourself and will always love you for you. My boyfriend isn't perfect.....I'll be the first one to admit that (no offense, babe!). However, he always finds a way to make up for all of the little fights and arguments that we have. He would never tell me to change the way I am for him. He loves me for who I really am and I am so lucky to have him in my life.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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4 Signs That You Might Be A Pushover In Your Relationship

There's a fine line between being considerate and overly-accommodating in a relationship, here are some signs to help you determine which side of the line you're on.


While most of us consider ourselves independent individuals who are secure enough to maintain our own values while respecting someone else's, the difference between being flexible and completely bending to a romantic partner's will can be a slippery slope.

Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean that everything the two of you disagree on suddenly disappears. There are times when you'll have to occasionally make concessions in order to reach a solution, but you should never be the one to relent every on every issue. If you're not sure about how you stand in your relationship here are few signs that you may be a dating pushover.

1. You let them set the pace of the relationship

It can be hard to know if things are moving at a normal speed, especially if you're new to relationships. If you feel like things are moving too quickly or like the two of you aren't on the same page and choose to ignore it because the other person is content with where you are, then you're not giving your own feelings enough consideration. A relationship is not just about one person's emotions, disregarding the ones you're unsure about to avoid making waves doesn't make you peacekeeper, it makes you a pushover.

2. Your lack of an opinion is replaced by theirs

It's okay not to have an opinion on every issue plaguing our society at the moment, but it's not okay to allow your partner to declare a stance for you. If you're having a conversation with friends and politics are being broached and your S/O prefaces their statement with "We think," -knowing darn well that you don't have anything to say about Trump's administration and they think he's the best thing since Netflix started streaming "Friends"- and you don't interject with your true feelings, then you've just let them know that their preferences are more important than yours.

3. You conform to the way they see you

People are multifaceted and complex beings. While Tinder may ask you to describe yourself by a handful of defining characteristics to better match you with a mate, you are more than just "quiet" and "indoorsy". If you find yourself with someone who reduces you to labels that complement them, chances are that the more you're around them the more you'll start to only identify yourself by those labels as well. When you conform to the 2-dimensional image that someone else has of you, you lose parts of your identity and become a social chameleon.

4. You alter your dreams to fit into theirs

It's exciting to picture your life with someone you care and are serious about. Of course, you have to make some configurations in order for things to work for the both of you, but there has to be an equal amount of compromise for it to be healthy. If you're working towards a degree that would open doors for you to meet new people and have new experiences but your S/O has dreams to get settled sooner rather than later and makes you feel like you're overreaching in your life, don't abandon your vision for something that would fit into theirs.

Being a pushover does not mean you're a weak person. I don't think anyone sets out with the intent to be a chameleon dater. Sometimes it happens gradually, two people start off in a relationship thinking that they're compatible and then one person grows more comfortable and their will and opinions turn out to be stronger than the other persons'. Other times, you just make a poor judgment call and try to make things work with someone that wasn't meant for you.

If you find yourself to be a pushover in your relationship and you're unhappy about it, you can change. Take some time to learn about yourself and figure out what you want and who you want to be. You can't choose someone who really loves you and values your mind if you don't know how you need to be loved and understood. Whether you need a to step away from the dating scene, have a conversation with your romantic partner or even take a break from them, understanding yourself will strengthen all of your relationships in the long run.

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