Most girls dream of their wedding day from the time they were old enough to comprehend the thought. If you asked 100 women in their teens to age 30 where they see themselves in five to 10 years, even in our modern, progressive world most would answer you with "married, a baby and stability," or a combination of two or three of those depending on where she is in life. Please don't misunderstand that I am not in any way condemning the women who want those things. Marriage is something created by God to not only bring the lovebirds joy but also to exemplify the relationship between His Son and the Church. Marriage and children are wonderful gifts...
....as is singleness. I exist to bring glory to my Creator, and if I bring Him the most glory in my current state of singleness, then I am going to take pride in this gift; however, some girls don't do well being single, especially for a long amount of time. Ladies, there is nothing wrong with that.
In either Facebook status category, you will find women who are fiercely independent. Being one of those women (who is independent and single), I just thought I'd let you in on a secret. And by secret I mean a few things we independents hate to hear or be asked.
1. "So, is there a boy that's caught your attention?"
"Why yes, thank you for asking! I've been watching this show and there's this one character... oh you mean a real boy."
We are humans, so yes, there is bound to be a guy in a class we think is attractive, or that we've had lunch with. This question doesn't bother me as much as the one that follows...
2. "Oh so have you talked to him? What's he like? You should ask him out!"
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"Yes, I've talked to him. He's nice enough, I guess. And thanks but no thanks for that advice."
I'm an outgoing person and I will talk to anyone. If I want to ask him out, I will. Maybe I want to establish a friendship first. Maybe I want to get to know him better before I get in a car with him and go out to dinner.
3. "Don't you want a boyfriend? You aren't getting any younger!"
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"That's true, I'm not. Therefore I want to travel and do as many things as I can before I don't have the opportunity."
As a woman, part of you always wants a man in your life; it's just natural. I am in no rush, however, to find a guy and settle down. I want to travel. I want to come and go as I please. I want to pursue what the Lord has for me, which, at the moment, does NOT include a man. In future, I will gladly give all of those things up, be it in pursuit of the Lord.
4. "You'll find someone someday! Just hang in there!"
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"There are plenty of 'someones' out there. It'll happen if it's meant to happen."You are basing your assumption of the fact that I want to get married and that I'm currently looking for a suitor, when those things might not be true. There are plenty of women who prefer not to marry. It's a shame that society often looks at them as failures.
Also, I am not going to wait around for "Mr. Right." When the time is right, God will, in fact, bring someone into my life, but I'm not going to sit around and hope Mr. Right knows my address. I'm going to go out and go sky diving, skiing, caving, hiking, whatever I feel like doing. If I happen to meet someone along the way, great. If not, I'll have a ton of adventures to tell dogs when I get old.
5. "Who are you all dressed up for?"
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"Myself. I'm dressing up for myself."
Do I have to have a reason to dress up? Ok, I have pretty clothes and I want to wear them. I'm dressing up not for a boy but because I like to wear nice things.
I know that the people who have asked me things like this mean well, and I am no way diminishing the fact that they care for me.
Finally, there are a hundred other things I could mention here, but I'll keep it brief: I am satisfied in Christ first, and if He choses to bring a man into my life with whom I can bring Christ more glory than I can alone, it is well. If not, it is EQUALLY well.
