5 Things Dating A Military Man Has Taught Me

5 Things Dating A Military Man Has Taught Me

The good, the bad and the down right beautiful.

There are times when you will only have yourself.

People won’t always understand the life you live. They won’t understand why some of us chose to marry early, or they’ll say “I’ll never let my boyfriend join the military” (as if it was actually our choice anyway). With this being said, since we know not everyone fully gets our lifestyle, we end up keeping a lot of things to ourselves, so you learn to be your best support system.


Whether it be a 5 minute Facetime call, a weekend trip to visit them at their MOS school or their base, or if it’s a quick overnight stop before they move on to their next duty station... EVERY SECOND COUNTS. You value your text messages that come few and far in between, you screenshot every Snapchat because you never know when the next one will come. I can’t stress enough how precious every second, minute, hour and if you’re lucky, days are. Nothing is guaranteed, so eat up all the time you are blessed with.

You meet some life long friends online.

There are support groups through social media that are full of girls in the same position as you and automatically it becomes a safe place for you. And it’s like you’re screaming “FINALLY” on the inside because you learn that you aren’t alone. Other girls are feeling the same emotions as you, have the same arguments with their SO as you, have to go to proms, formals, graduations without them by their side and it opens your eyes to the fact that you’re not the first and you won’t be the last person to feel as if you’re almost doing life alone. Soon you comment on a girls post about how her boyfriend just left for bootcamp and you’re in Phase 2 so you tell her that it’s okay to message you whenever she needs to talk. Before you know it, you are texting each other everyday, calling each other, helping each other with homework and you just gained a lifelong friend.

Military relationships are NOTHING like the movies or books.

Everyone’s first thought is “Oh my gosh you’re dating a Marine?! Does he have any hot friends? I would love to date a Marine”. Well yes, the uniform does everyone wonders, but it’s not always romantic homecomings along with letters and flowers sent to your door. The good stuff is also mixed with a lot of goodbyes, dangerous situations and heartbreak. I wouldn’t trade my relationship with my Marine for anything and I love and support him more than words could justify, but everyone has those days where you’re selfish and wish they could drop everything and come home to you.

You learn just how strong you really are.

You learn that your life is about having plan, a backup plan, a backup for your backup plan and having NONE of them work out. You learn how to go with the flow and it teaches you there’s nothing that is too much for you to handle when it comes to your relationship. You endure what feels like endless deployments, limited communications and even rules about when you can hold their hand in uniform and you make it out alive. You learn that it takes a lot more to break you than you originally thought and people look at you like you’re made of steel and you almost feel like you are, once all of the hardships are said and done. You learn to be proud of yourself because you know that you have gone through the insane roller coaster ride of dating a military man and you had days where you felt like you were scraping the ground, but here you are, with your arms around the person you love and for that moment in time you feel invincible.

Military relationships are nothing short of empowering, you are strong and your relationship is 100% worth it.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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14 Things You Relate To If You Grew Up WithOUT Any Cousins

*GASP* "What, you really don't have any cousins?"


It always shocks every person who hears me state that I do not have any cousins. For some reason, this is just hard for people to really believe when it's actually not something impossible. I think we are all just so used to large families that it sounds weird when people say that they have no cousins. Yet, it is definitely a potential reality, and actually impossible if each of your parents is the only child to your grandparents.

Here are 14 things that you can relate to if you grew up without any cousins.

1. Nobody believes you when you say that you don't have any cousins

I'm serious, for the tenth time.

2. Your grandparents spoil you

With no other grandchildren to worry about, it's pretty easy to do.

3. You don't understand when people say that cousins are your first best friends

My best friend was my first best friend.

4. You and your siblings are always the youngest people at family events

This was simultaneosuly a good thing and a bad thing.

5. You get all of the attention at holidays

Since you're the youngest one around, then distant relatives are always doting over you.

6. Everything you do is deemed awesome by your extended family because there is nobody to compete with

It's much easier to be praised when you aren't being compared to someone similar to your age.

7. You don't know how to hold babies

You're never around them so why would you?

8. Family photos are pretty easy to coordinate

The less people, the easier.

9. Other family members spoil you just because 

Afterall, you are the only kid around...

10. The family will make comments regarding the potential for you to have a cousin as a justification for why they aren't doing something for you

When you hear, "I can't buy you too much because someday your aunt is going to have kids and I will have to do the same for them" you cringe and just had to know that all of the attention wouldn't last forever.

11. Birthdays are always a big deal

A perk of not having very many to remember.

12. If your parents' siblings own pets, then you refer to the animal as your cousin

Cat cousins, dog cousins, lizard cousins, and fish cousins can be pretty cool, actually.

13. Sometimes you dream of marrying into a big family

This is to ensure that your kids do grow up with cousins.

14. You appreciate the closeness of your tight-knit fam

Maybe the only thing you would miss if you had a big family is the opportunity to develop such close bonds with the few relatives that you do have.

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