If you're reading this and you're a female over the age of 15, chances are you have had that one boyfriend who (has) made a long-lasting impact on your life. From the amazing memories, to the first time you felt what love really was, he will always hold a special place in your heart. While some ladies still have their guy (hold on tight to him!) some of us don’t-- and that’s okay! There’s another Prince Charming out there just waiting for you to put down the Ben and Jerry’s and throw away all of your tear-stained Kleenex. Here are 5 tips you can follow to get over your ex and move on to the next (or enjoy the single life!).
1. Distract yourself
While he may be the one thing at the forefront of your mind, you need to find something to distract yourself from him. Now is the perfect time to find a hobby or try something new. Join a club or find a friend to try a new class at the gym with. There’s always something to do on campus, so no excuses!
2. Resist the urge to contact him
Although you may be constantly itching to text him, contacting him will only make it harder for you to get over him. While deleting his number may be a little excessive (although sometimes necessary), consider unfollowing him on social media. There’s nothing worse than seeing him have a great time out with his friends while you’re miserable at home watching yet another episode of House Hunters International.
3. Keep your options open
Just because your heart is broken doesn’t mean you have to stay home every weekend! (Trust me, Netflix will still be there in the morning.) Going out with friends is a great way to get your mind off him, and if a guy starts talking to you, don’t be quick to turn him down! You don’t need to plan the wedding or start thinking of baby names, but giving him your number won’t hurt. You never know--he may end up giving your ex a run for his money!
4. Realize that it will take time
This is the biggest lesson I learned from my recent breakup: time heals all wounds. Your brain has a selective memory, and pretty soon you’ll be forgetting all those bad memories. For me, it took a summer spent at home to ease the pain. As soon as school started again, I realized I was incredibly happy with who I was and the way things had turned out. Which leads me to….
5. What did you learn from your relationship?
This is so important! You learn something from all your relationships; sometimes they’re good lessons and sometimes they’re learning lessons. Take what you learned from your past relationship and use it when similar situations arise in your next one. You’ll feel more in control because you’ll know exactly how to handle the situation and you wont feel like you wasted all your time. You came out stronger and more knowledgeable, so learn from it.
Now that you’re equipped with all the necessary knowledge of getting over your ex, go out there and find your true Prince Charming.
