The thrill of a new hook-up is always exciting. Everything starts off hot and heavy. Your nerves are getting the best of you and the thought of getting down and dirty occupies your brain at night. All you could want in a nice and sexy, “friends with benefits” relationship is right in front of you. But, how do you know when to throw in the towel? No, not the towel after all the hot stuff, but the towel on your casual FWB. Here’s a few of the main indicators that your FWB relationship is about to expire.
1. Lack of response.
If you’re not receiving any texts, calls, Snapchats etc. You HAVE to take the hint that your hook-up is no longer interested. I’ve been guilty of trying to hang on to a couple of my hook-ups but I’ve also been on the receiving end of the nagging and numerous, “what are you up to?” texts. It’s no fun and it looks desperate.
2. Delaying or postponing hook-ups.
Whether it be scheduling conflicts or empty excuses, your FWB relationship is coming to an end. There are times when you’re both too tired to, “get it on” but prolonging hook-up dates or not even bothering to find time for each other usually means, neither of you are willing to continue your relationship. It’s the casualty of a FWB relationship that makes it fun! Planning to hook-up on Monday at 12 A.M. isn’t sexy. The timing isn’t right and that’s okay!
3. Your FWB has a SO (significant other).
This is dangerous territory! Do not cheat and do not hook-up with someone in a relationship!
It's common sense for some, but not for others. Always respect the boundaries of a relationship. Sure, you had fun, but they chose someone else and you should too. Say, "thanks for the memories," and be on your way.4. Looking for different commitments.
Commitment is tricky, but it doesn’t have to be. You and your partner MUST and I repeat MUST have clear communication when talking about your sexual relationship and level of commitment. You could be talking about having sex with each other exclusively, and they might want to have sex, exclusively with you, on Wednesday nights only. If you can have sex with each other, you can communicate too.
5. Lack of interest.
Finally, you know your attitude towards someone and a situation. It’s your sex life. You know if it feels right or not, and you have every right to stop seeing someone. Things may have been hot at first but somewhere down the line it cooled off, which is perfectly normal. It was fun until it wasn’t fun anymore. You can try to spice it up, but don't try to force anything! Keep things casual and accept your hook-up expired.
The important thing to remember is: talk to your partner about the status and quid pro quo of your sexual relationship. It is the key to avoid hurting feelings. If you’re going to open yourself up to someone, make sure you both know what you’re getting yourself into. and always use protection!
