5 Reasons Why You Should Never Take A Cheater Back

5 Reasons Why You Should Never Take A Cheater Back

Never go back to someone toxic just because you’re lonely.

Getting cheated on is easily one of the worst feelings in the world. You question everything from your self-worth, all the way to if anything in your relationship was ever real or genuine. Many times, a lot of people make the fatal mistake of taking their cheating significant other back, or continuing to hang out and have relations with them after the fact. Although you may feel there are reasons that you should take them back, there are even more reasons why you should just pick up, and move on.

1. Your relationship will never, ever be the same.

The trust is gone. And a relationship without trust is like a car without gas—it goes nowhere. All your fun memories will just be followed by thoughts of how your lover did you wrong, and if he was being faithful at the time of those sacred memories.

2. People rarely ever change.

I’ve learned from experience that people do not change. And on the off chance they do, they will not change for you, but only for themselves. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase "once a cheater, always a cheater." Now, sometimes that isn’t true, but face it, most of the times it is very true.

3. Getting back with a cheater shows a tremendous lack of self-respect.

Cheating is usually a chronic occurrence. How could you respect yourself, or anybody else respect you if you're willing choose to stay with a man who clearly had no respect or value for you? If you keep on taking someone back, it is no longer about love. It is about the power your significant other has over you. If they know they can get you back no matter what they do, they will always fall back into their old bad habits.

4. If they truly loved you, they would have never cheated.

Do not listen to their sad sob stories and apologize saying that they love you and it was a mistake. It does not work like that. When you meet the person that you are destined to be with, they will never even think about cheating on you. They will love you with all their heart, and the thought of hurting you will never cross their mind.

5. You deserve better.

There is so much out there in the world whether it be opportunities or people that are good for you. Staying with someone who has broken your trust and cheated on you will only hinder you and hold you back. You need to put your feelings aside, as hard as it may be, and put yourself first. Get out of the situation as fast as you can. Your life will only flourish and get better once you eliminate toxic people from it.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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