We meet someone, we tell them we like them, and, hopefully, they tell us they like us back. From there on you decide you have a thing, and you're going to get to know each other. It's all seemingly perfect, but maybe they're not texting back as much, maybe they're not texting back at all. You ask to make dinner plans or say goodbye before you leave for break, and they say "Yeah, sure." We're supposed to still swoon and just settle with "yeah, sure"? I don't think so. We make plans and ask to hang out, we try to talk to them and get to know them, we ask them questions, we ask why they're attracted to us and what we receive in return is sometimes less than satisfying. So for ANYONE who has EVER had this happen to them here are 5 reasons we shouldn't be waiting around and doing the chasing and my main 5 reasons why I refuse to do all the chasing.
1. Excuses after excuses
If he/she isn't texting you back and making excuses after excuses on why they haven't been responding, but yet still have time to do other things, that are not important, get out. We deserve someone who can at least shoot us a text back saying "Hey, I'm busy I can't talk right now, I'm sorry", something around that. We deserve that. We deserve someone who at least can text us back even if that's once. If they can still post on their snap chat story, or post something on Instagram for "funsies" we at least deserve a text back and if they can't do something as simple as that, that's silly and we deserve better.
2. Refusing to see me as a priority
If he/she isn't making seeing you a priority or to at least get coffee or a short dinner available to you, BAIL. The worst excuse I think is when they can't make time and you go to the same school, and the same dining hall, and same everything else. Everyone has to eat, so why not say hey I have to get a quick dinner but I want to see you. I don't think it's that hard to see someone for five minutes, because you never know how much those five minutes can mean to someone, because even though you're super stressed and busy, we will understand, and you'll have no idea how much it means to us that you made the time to see us, even for a few minutes. It's not hard.
3. Lack of communication
Back to the texting, if you can't always see each other and run on very different schedules, getting to know each other is going to be hard. In which case you have to resort to texting or whatever, and trying your best to find out what you can through there, but if they aren't talkative and barely seem like they have nothing to say, adios. If you can't see each other that's fine, and if texting is the only way to get to know each other that's fine too, but get to know me if that's the way. Ask me questions and don't let my super annoying self be asking all the questions, I'm trying to get to know you, and you should be trying to get to know me too. What's the point otherwise? I hate talking to people who just don't ask anything, or can't hold a conversation about getting to know each other if you're just going to spew out yes's and no's, we're boring each other and let's move on.
4. Acting differently in front of others
Another huge reason I refuse to do all the chasing is because I hate when someone can't act the same with me when we're alone than when we're in a public space. If you can't be the same goofball, affectionate, outgoing person you are with me in public, then do I even know who you are? We deserve someone who isn't going to act differently around their friends and act like I'm a fan of theirs that they don't even know in public. You know who I am, you've pronounced all your little feelings for me, so don't act differently, be upfront about who you are. I think someone you're interested in should always be real with you, private and public.
5. Your disinterest tells me all I need to know
Lastly, his/her/their disinterest is closure. If they're not acting like they're interested, then that's all I need to know. I don't need to ask again if they're all in, I don't need to grill them about their "genuine" feelings about me if they are showing disinterest, I don't need them to tell me, that's my closure, and I'll be gone. Easy come easy go.
I'm sure this all sounds a little cold, but I'm tired of chasing people. I know what I want, I know my value, and I know what I deserve, so I'm not wasting my time anymore because my heart is more important.
