If you are single then I'm sure you have been asked, "So, are you dating anyone?" This question is relatives and family friends' go to question after they ask about school. They mean well, but it can get a little awkward if you say no because they tend to follow with "why not?" I'm always taken aback when asked this because I never know how to respond. Why was I single? Why am I still single? These questions come to mind, and the next thing you know I'm questioning my entire life.
Now, there is nothing wrong with being single. However, the world seems to be fixated on the belief that everyone needs to be in a relationship, and if you aren't then something must be wrong. So, I sat down one day (well right now as I'm writing this) and made a list of reasons why I am single.
1. Dating isn't the same
With society using the phrase Netflix and chill more times than it is asking want to get dinner tonight, the dating world has completely changed. It has become actually quite difficult to find a guy who would like to sit down and get to know each other rather than just hook up. Dating has its complications of which I don't have time for.
2. I'm Hella Busy!
Speaking of time, I always seem to be running out of it. Being a full time student with two jobs plus extracurricular activities, I just don't see how a boyfriend would fit in. Because unlike the song, I get tired; super tired. Honestly, at the end of the day, all I want to do is crawl into bed and sleep (but not before three hours of homework). If I were to meet a guy let alone actually date him, he would have to be in one of my classes or work with me because that would literally be the only way we could spend time together. Although, education probably wasn't the best major to choose if I wanted to pick up guys (I knew I should have did a year as an engineering major).
3. Timing
Okay, it's not like I haven't met a single guy, but my timing always seemed to be off. Whether it was that the guy was a little too young or that he wanted to be a priest, I never really seemed to have the right timing. Apparently, time is never on my side.
4. I'm pretty good at being single
Being single kind of becomes a habit after awhile. I get in that routine of school and work, and the rare chance that I have entire weekend off, I use a bulk of that watching movies and hanging out with friends. I've become accustomed in doing things on my own, and I've learned how to be alone without being lonely.
5. I don't NEED a man
See here's the thing, many people believe that we NEED a relationship. I don't need a boyfriend. I have a job therefore I have money. I have a truck therefore I can drive myself to the store to buy the things I need. Wants and needs are two completely different things, however, people always seem to get them mixed up. I can handle my own. Do I want a relationship? Sure, but that will come. I first need to get my life situated and that means graduating and getting my degree. Now, I am not against finding a guy who will love me for me and all that jazz, but I am also not desperate and willing to settle. I have a few standards, which when you look at it isn't a long list, but I just haven't met a guy who seems to fit. One day, I will find him out there, and whether it is before I graduate or after, I will embrace it and be the best girlfriend the boy has ever had. But until then, I'm chilling.
