Sometimes those who have anxiety seem hard to love. They're panicky and don't always let others see their true colors. Sometimes they push others away because they're scared, but in reality, they are the BEST people to fall in love with! Here's why:
1) We are very loyal.
A lot of times, those with anxiety learn to be anxious because of feelings of abandonment when they're younger and they know what it's like to have their trust betrayed; therefore, they would make such loyal companions. It makes them anxious to even think about being left because of their own problems or to ever be cheated on and that's why when they fall in love with you, they'll remain by your side.
2) We are sensitive to how others feel.
Because they have issues of their own, they would be sensitive and understanding to how you feel when you're going through a rough time. They know what it means to feel like no one understands them. Especially because they know how to go through things by themselves, they would be there for you whenever you need it and all they'd ask for in return is that you'd do the same for them.
3) We would never betray your trust.
The root of a lot of anxiety is the pain of betrayal. People with anxiety have felt the pangs of being betrayed by the ones they thought they could trust and because of this, they would never wish that on anyone else. If they fall in love with you, they'd make sure you never feel as they did. They'd keep your secrets, they'd do as they're asked, and they'd love you as you deserve.
4) We make the best cuddle buddies.
Do you love to cuddle!? It's getting bitter out there in the December nights, and sometimes, all you need to get through your night is someone who needs hugs for more than just warmth. To struggle with anxiety is to have this sense of inner-turmoil and most of the time, just having someone else's arms around them is what they need to calm down. It's a win/win situation: you get to stay warm and they get a way to relieve themselves of their nightly anxiety.
5) Sometimes, we're the ones who need love the most.
People with anxiety often suffer from loneliness. Everything that I've mentioned above isn't the case for every person with anxiety, but I wrote this this way because everyone deserves to be loved. These are beautiful people who've struggled with so much, please don't turn away from them because they'll need a little extra lovin'. They would be the best companion, all they need is someone to believe in them because their anxiety makes it hard for them to believe with themselves.
QUICK NOTE: To everyone struggling out there, if you are suffering with some sort of self-image problem and you don't love yourself, being in a relationship is going to be really hard. I can't stress enough how important it is for you to first learn how to love yourself and be in a semi-comfortable place in your skin because you need to love you before you can love someone else.
ANOTHER NOTE: Love is not something to chase after or to fear. It will come to you. It will come when you least expect it, but when you need it the most. Trust in God, trust in whatever higher power you believe in, trust in the universe that everything will work out just fine.
I have pretty bad anxiety so I speak solely from experience. Thank you to my wonderful friends, family, and boyfriend (hi, Tom!) for loving me for who I am. Thank you for loving me and my anxiety. Because of your unconditional love, the struggle against my anxiety is a little more bearable.
