Here are five different mantras for five different day to day feelings, to help you navigate to a better you:
1. For when you’re stressed beyond belief
First, remind yourself to breathe in and out in an attempt to calm your self down. Then try saying "This is only temporary. I can get through this and it will pass."
Repeat is as many times as necessary, and try visualizing how you can break down and attack whatever is causing the root of your stress.
2. For when you’re doubting yourself
Again, get into a mental space that separates you from whatever is putting doubt in your mind and try to focus on entering a zone of positivity. Then, say "I am capable, I am worth it, I am qualified and I can do this."
Follow the pattern of repeating the statement, and see if saying it different ways creates more of an impact. Let yourself be absorbed by it, and say it as if you truly think it. Even if you don't think it may be true at first, when you hone in on that feeling you can hopefully try and change your attitude.
3. For when you feel indulgent
Let yourself be happy, and be open to embracing the good things coming your way. Life doesn't have to be restrictive, even thought we more often than not refuse to let ourselves indulge or treat ourselves to something nice.
Think about how hard you've worked and all your recent accomplishments or progress you've made, and say "I have worked hard, and I may not be perfect but I am trying and that makes me worth it. My effort counts and I have earned this."
We all have a hard time spoiling ourselves every now and then, but it's important to remember that you are in fact worthy of reward (whether it be emotional or physical).
4. For when you’re feeling angry
Identify whether your anger is stemming from something internal or external, and evaluate whether you should be letting it get to you. Everyone gets angry it's normal, and your feelings are your feelings so they are always valid to feel. However, it's important to think about whether raging over whatever is causing you to be angry is worth it in the long run, and warrants you causing distress to yourself. Take a deep breath in, consider both sides of the situation, and ask yourself "Will this matter in a week? Do I really care about this that much? Why am I so affected by ______(insert whatever happened)."
Go through those vocal steps to guide you into a better place, and when you feel that you have come to a resolution that's calmed you down, say "I am letting my anger go. I am going to be the bigger person, and let this roll over me."
5. For when you’re feeling happy jitters or butterflies
When you're feeling jittery either because of happy nervousness, anticipation, or just overexcitement it's always good to let yourself be happy but also realize that there may be no need to be nervous about your situation. Take a first date for example, the other person is probably just as nervous as you! It's hard to remember that everyone else is normal just like you, no matter what mental pedestal you might have put them on. It's great to be excited, but don't let it make you anxious. Try saying "I can't wait to do/meet/go ______ (insert person/activity/place. This will be a great, fun experience so there's no ned to be nervous!"
Butterflies are so normal, and if you're getting them it's a good thing! Be excited about life and all it has to offer!
Remember: mantras are personal and should work for you. Even though these are some suggestions of how they work for me, feel free to customize them or scrap them all together if they don't work for you! Self assurance and empowerment comes form exploration and finding what's good for you, so never be afraid to make it your own. After all, you are your own person and should totally own that!
