5 Lessons You Learn From Not Achieving Your Goals

5 Lessons You Learn From Not Achieving Your Goals

"It's fine to celebrate success, but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure." -Bill Gates

Unaccomplished goals sting. There's no debate over it. No matter how hard you try, it just doesn't always happen. You can let the failure break you and tear you down, or you can use it as motivation to persist, persevere at times of adversity, and keep trying.

Michael Jordan once said, "I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."

Jordan has learned to see the silver lining through his failures and I'm here too, to discuss the several takeaways from unachieved goals. The lessons you can embrace will take your disappointment, transform it into drive and dedication, and help you recommit to your goals.

1. You learn how to cope with failure.

When you fail, sometimes it's out of your control. You'll recognize failure is necessary and important and only leads to learning, growth, and maturity. Every time you don't achieve a goal, you accumulate more knowledge on how to succeed and reach it. Failure does not equal defeat. You get back up, keep going, and stay focused.

2. Your resilience begins to shape you.

Not only does it shape you, but it shapes your values, priorities, and perspectives. It brings your goals to the forefront of your mind with utter clarity. Your motivation is revamped and you become submersed in your passion to perfect your craft. You itch to revise your strategies. You get excited to create a new game plan. Your focus drives your execution.

3. You accept that it's just not your time.

When things turn awry, many tend to rely on their Higher Power to help them through the hardship. Failure is not any different. You might pray every day, you find those prayers to be unanswered and unfulfilled as each day passes. Your Higher Power isn't ignoring you, they're just saying "not yet." It's not your timing, it's theirs. It's in their hands. You learn to find comfort in their care.

4. "No" is no longer an acceptable answer.

When you don't get something you really wanted, you either give up or you push even harder to get it. Failing is a safe-proof way to realize how bad (or not bad) you actually want something. When you hear the word "no," your brain registers it as "work harder."

5. The vision of your goal made you better.

Even when you don't achieve your goal, the endless pursuit of it changed and molded you into who you are today. After chasing something for an extended amount of time, you're bound to grow. You're bound to learn new things. Even if the end result wasn't what you hoped for, nothing and no one can take away the knowledge you've gained, growth you've made, and sacrifice you've endured through relentless effort, late nights, and leaps of faith.

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There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

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If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

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Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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This is my wonderful cat Kimber and she will be my partner in crime on the 14th. She will sleep, snuggle, cuddle, all day with me because I need that moral support of my fluffy cat.



If I am able to fit reading a book into my schedule of everything listed above then reading will go into that open spot. I always loved reading but with school it is hard to find the time to read for enjoyment. so this day will be the perfect day.

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