The 5 Most Annoyingly Common Questions Disabled People Get Asked

The 5 Most Annoyingly Common Questions Disabled People Get Asked

Many don't have a lot of experience around disabled people. They're curious, but questions can be annoying.

Not many people have experience around somebody who's physically disabled. If they do, it's from a distance. Personally, even though I suffer from cerebral palsy and have had major hip reconstructive surgery, as far as being disabled goes, I'm one the lucky ones. Many people with cerebral palsy can barely talk, feed, or dress themselves. I am much more independent and a lot of people don't know how to handle it. So, I get a lot of silly questions and unnecessary gestures thrown my way that can be very annoying.

1. If you don't mind me asking, what happened to you?

I understand people's curiosity, but if you've never met me and I'm out in public, please don't come up to me and ask me what happened. First of all, it's awkward as Hell. Secondly, it's pretty rude and naïve to think that I'm going pour my life story into you filled with very personal and sensitive information.

2. Are you able to you know, have sex?

This next question is rarely asked out loud. But it's one of the most common questions everyone is thinking inside their head. The answer? Well, simply yes. I can have sex and I do it quite well I might add. Just because my legs are broken and I can't walk on my own, it doesn't mean my penis doesn't work.

3. Here, do you want to sit? Take my seat.

I certainly understand that this question doesn't come from ignorance, it comes from kindness. When I walk in a room full of people and all the chairs are taken and someone gets up for me, I know they're just looking out for me. But, at the same time, one of the honors I work so hard to obtain is to be looked at as being like everyone else. I certainly know that if I didn't have a walker no one would be giving up their chair as often as they do for me. Admittedly, I know I need that chair more than anyone else in the room, but it's still annoying.

4. Do you need help? Here, let me help you.

Now, it's the second part of this question that's the problem. There's nothing that makes me more uncomfortable than when someone I don't know proceeds to help me without my permission. There's always that random person that wants to grab me under the arm or take my hand to help me up a flight of stairs. Or when I go out to a restaurant and the hostess walks me to my table and takes away the chair, like I'm just supposed to pull my walker up and eat standing. There's nothing wrong with wanting to help, but keep in mind is that every disabled person is different and has different abilities. The best way to approach it, is to ask, "Can I help you and if so how?" Don't ASSUME.

5. Will you ever be able to walk? Or is this forever?

Valid question, but it's not something that permanently physically disabled people like to think about. It took many of us long enough to accept their circumstances and look at the positive. The last thing we want to do is think about the negative.

These questions and experiences just scratch the surface. There are hundreds maybe even thousands I've heard throughout my lifetime. A little curiosity never hurt anybody. But try to use a little bit of common sense when asking. Also, try to remember that not every question needs to be asked.

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3 Reasons Why Step Dads Are Super Dads


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1. They will do anything for you, literally.

My stepdad has done any and every thing for me. From when I was little until now. He was and still is my go-to. If I was hungry, he would get me food. If something was broken, he would fix it. If I wanted something, he would normally always find a way to get it. He didn't spoil me (just sometimes), but he would make sure that I was always taken care of.

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2. Life lessons.

Yup, the tough one. My stepdad has taught me things that I would have never figured out on my own. He has stood beside me through every mistake. He has been there to pick me up when I am down. My stepdad is like the book of knowledge: crazy hormonal teenage edition. Boy problems? He would probably make me feel better. He just always seemed to know what to say. I think that the most important lesson that I have learned from my stepdad is: to never give up. My stepdad has been through three cycles of leukemia. He is now in remission, yay!! But, I never heard him complain. I never heard him worry and I never saw him feeling sorry for himself. Through you, I found strength.

3. He loved me as his own.

The big one, the one that may seem impossible to some step parents. My stepdad is not actually my stepdad, but rather my dad. I will never have enough words to explain how grateful I am for this man, which is why I am attempting to write this right now. It takes a special kind of human to love another as if they are their own. There had never been times where I didn't think that my dad wouldn't be there for me. It was like I always knew he would be. He introduces me as his daughter, and he is my dad. I wouldn't have it any other way. You were able to show me what family is.

So, dad... thanks. Thanks for being you. Thanks for being awesome. Thanks for being strong. Thanks for loving me. Thanks for loving my mom. Thanks for giving me a wonderful little sister. Thanks for being someone that I can count on. Thanks for being my dad.

I love you!

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How To Avoid Getting Sick Your  Freshman Year

It's going to take a little more than an apple a day.


College is the prime time and place to catch a cold... or worse. Although, somehow I managed to crack the code to health and not get sick my whole first year of college. This is surprising considering I was living in the close (and very unsanitary) quarters of a dorm room.

1. Keep your diet somewhat healthy

I know how hard it is to eat healthy in college, especially on a low budget. But with the dining hall foods, you can at least include some vegetables and fruits into your everyday consumption. The vitamins in these foods will help keep your immune system up and it will be worth the effort.

2. Try to exercise a few times per week

Even if you're just getting out of the dorm for a thirty minute walk, it will benefit your body. If you decide to up your routine from that, even better! The more endorphins, the more you will feel better inside and out.

3. Cut back on the drinking if you feel a cold coming on

Surprisingly, many college students don't seem to know that alcohol lowers your immune system. Of course, for some people theres no way of avoiding drinking. But if you can at least give your body rest days, it will be extremely beneficial.

4. Invest in a dehumidifier for your dorm room

I believe this was a very big player in helping me not get sick. The dehumidifier helps reduce dust and other particles in the air. This will help not agitate your allergies and you will feel more clear headed.

5. Try not to share personal products

Sharing things like towels, makeup, unwashed cups, etc. can all be causes of a sickness being passed around you and your friends. Of course sharing is caring, just make sure it's sanitary.

6. Be conscientious of who you kiss!

Make sure that your girlfriend, boyfriend, or "its complicated" person is not sick before you're getting cozy with them.

7. Drink lots of green tea!

Personally, I credit green tea and its anti-oxidants for keeping the flu away and even getting rid of bugs that might be forming in your system. So if you feel like you might be developing a cold, chug that tea!

I know how annoying these tips may be. But I promise, if you implement at least a few it could reduce your chances of feeling horrible during midterms in the winter, and sneezing all over your finals in the fall.

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