Going into my freshman year of college, I swore to myself I wouldn’t dare get in a relationship during the biggest growth window of my life. Well guess what? It happened anyway. Of course I wouldn’t change a thing, but after two semesters of having someone right by your side through that adjustment stage, you can bet the breakup was rough. They always are. I have recently taken a new approach to dealing with the heartache. So, here I am to share a breath of fresh air with you.
Marilyn Monroe once said,“ sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
Becoming whole with God rather than with someone else. Sometimes during a relationship we forget that we are meant to have God complete us and make us whole. We love to look for that feeling of being complete in our significant other. The best person to lean on after a breakup is God. So, if you’re feeling empty, let Him fill you up before you start something new.
More time to create lifelong friendships. When falling in love, it’s normal to want to spend as much time as you can with your significant other. It’s not a bad thing at all to want that. There can be consequences after the breakup, though. After he/she is gone, who is still there? That’s when you realize you should have spent a little less time with them and a little more time with your friends. It’s all about balance. After a breakup is the perfect time to focus on friendships.
Reflecting on the knowledge you gained from the relationship. Dating is good. It is a great way to learn about yourself, your expectations, and the opposite sex. You will learn what makes your heart happy. You will learn your love language. The break up may be negative, but a lesson learned is always positive. Now on the next go around, you can be happier! Tell me, what’s not awesome about that?
More time to find yourself. This may not apply to all breakups, but definitely one that occurs after your freshman year of college. In my opinion, your college years are the best time to figure who you are and who you want to be. You need room to grow. For compassionate people like myself, when you’re dating someone you think of them before everyone and everything. It is a blessing and a curse, but it is part of who you are. After a breakup, you have the choice to think about yourself for a change. It really isn’t a bad thing either. It is quite refreshing to only have yourself to worry about, and it sure does make finding yourself much easier.
I’m sure there are many more positives that can be taken from a breakup, but these are the few that I have really been focusing on lately. Peace starts with perspective and positivity. If you’re in the same spot I was in about a month ago, I hope this has helped you get on your way to creating a new outlook on your post-breakup life.
