I've been blessed enough to work as the Junior High Ministry Director at my church for the past three years. In this time, working with children ages 11 to 18, I've learned many things about myself and others. As I continue on in my career, these will be lessons I will take with me. In addition, I believe these to be great life lessons and my hope is that these can encourage others in many areas and seasons of life.
1. You are more capable than you believe.
I've been put in many high pressure situations where I have been completely out of my element. I've been pushed to what feels like my breaking point, only to discover how strong I really am. Those difficult circumstances have forced me into new facets of leadership I never knew I could reach. Don't be afraid to take risks, because you will grow immensely in the process.
2. Patience is a virtue.
When it comes to programming, mentoring and many other areas of ministry, I tend to rush things. I like to see results; at times, I can force them. I've noticed that if I take time to plan and execute certain events, they usually end up going immensely better. I have also learned that I cannot force a student to change on my time. I've had to stop, take a step back and allow God to make changes. I truly am not in control, and I need to consistently remind myself of that.
3. People will always surprise you.
I so easily underestimate my students. Working with middle school preteens, I assume that the fart noises and boy talk are all they are capable of. However, the more I get to know some of them the more impressed I become with their knowledge and maturity. On the flip side, there are some people who I assume have good intentions, but it turns out to be a facade. Never completely put your eggs in someone's basket, but always encourage the good.
4. Always be yourself.
It's so easy to get caught up in comparison. We wish we were doing more, saying things better or improving in certain areas. The problem with that is that people appreciate authenticity and realness. Don't be afraid to be transparent in your stage of life. The quickest way to make a friend is to share your heart and live honestly.
Grasp on to these many lessons and keep them in mind. At times it's hard, but keeping perspective keeps life simple and easy, and at the end of the day, isn't that what we all want?
