Ah, the pivotal question for young adults these days. As well as anyone else who's tired of being a single-pringle. The game of dating is cruel, exciting, frustrating, and exhausting. It's not what it used to be. And I'm not even just talking about what it was like back in the '50s and '60s (although I think it was more legit back then) but I also mean as recent as 10 years ago. It used to mean having face-to-face conversations, and meet ups with someone, getting to know the nitty gritty details about their life and who they are. Dating used to be something more serious, and where "hooking up" meant meeting up with someone, not agreeing to slobber all over each other's faces and what not. So why exactly is it so unbelievably frustrating to us?
1. It's all done online.
One of the hardest parts about getting into the world of dating is learning how to do so virtually. Whatever happened to actually going out to meet people, and putting yourself out there? Dating websites and apps that claim to make dating easier are actually pretty confusing and troubling for some. How can on online source tell you what people are right for you to date? And upon seeing those results of which people you are matched with, at some point you think "Hmm, that's weird that out of all these people, it's saying I should date this person?" Finding someone all on your own is so. much. better.
2. It's very hard to find someone who wants to date.
Along with all of the different dating apps available, it's quite a challenge to find someone who is genuinely interested in a real relationship. The biggest thing that challenges this concept is something that can be described as "hookup-culture." What seems to be the trend is just hooking up with people who are attractive as opposed to becoming emotionally involved. For whatever reason, people seem to find this more appealing than a relationship. That being said, it makes it that much more difficult to find someone in this "sea" where's theres supposedly "plenty fish of" to catch, who truly are dating to be in a relationship.
3. The actual dates are boring.
I don't know why people would ever think of narrowing down the options there are of different date ideas. Additionally, it's ridiculous to believe that sitting across from each other at a lousy restaurant constantly checking their phone, contributing to the ongoing dull and painful conversation that leads nowhere qualifies as a date. A date should be fun where you do something new, adventurous, risky, or daring. And it's all the more enjoyable and memorable because you get to experience it with someone who like to share these types of experiences and feelings with.
