Women are no strangers to the societal pressure to become a wife. If you were raised in the South, like me, then you've probably heard your grandma or someone else's grandma say "One day, you'll make some boy very happy." I am aware that this pattern is becoming less and less true. Still, it's crucial that we, as women, keep in mind what is truly important.
1. Education
One of the most important components of being a self-empowered woman is to also be an educated woman. This does not necessarily mean that you must have a PhD or even a Bachelor's degree. It simply means that you should be educated enough to be able to form your own belief system and thought basis. Honestly, this doesn't just apply to women. Everyone should have some form of education in order to remain independent and not become a sheep.
2. Yourself
Often I have been told to put other's needs above my own or else I am being selfish. I'm sure you have hear this too. I am hear to tell you that this utter bullsh*t. Of course you should strive to care for others as much as you can. But sometimes, you need to step back and think "What does [insert name] need?" From the time that we're little girls we're told that pretty much our main goal in life should be to care for our husbands and children. Yet again, whoever told you that is wrong. The most important thing to you should be you. It's essential that you never lose sight of that.
3. Your Purpose
How on earth do you expect to share your life with someone else when you have barely gotten yours straight? Your pretty much expected to get married by the time you're 25. By the time I'm 25, I won't even be finished with school yet. So, I definitely won't be set in my career. Which means I definitely won't be ready to give half of everything I have and am to another human being. Don't get me wrong. I'm not criticizing those who get married at a young age. I'm just saying that you should never feel pressured to do so. Not by your parents, not by your friends, not by society, and not by your significant other.
To sum it up, you should basically keep your focus on yourself and becoming your best self before you consider make such a serious commitment. Nothing in this world, definitely not a man, is more important than your own being. Remember that, ladies.
