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3 Of Your Questions Answered By Your "Black Friend"

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3 Of Your Questions Answered By Your "Black Friend"
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I was fortunate enough to grow up in an affluent area. I grew up in one of the United State's top school systems, did very well for myself, and attend a Predominately White Institution and maintain decent grades.

Of course, my successes haven't come with ease. There's something about being the sole black person surrounded by every race but your own that leads to ridiculous assumptions and questions being brought to the table over the years. After years of the same questions, I've decided to answer the top 3 ridiculous questions I've ever been asked.

1. What's it like being the "black friend?"

I don't think my friends notice that much. It's 2016. I'm sure my friends have made other black friends, I'm sure they're capable of holding friendships not based specifically on race. In fact, I'm more than sure that our friendship is built upon much more than just my race, and truthfully told, if anyone is my friend specifically because I'm black, then I demand our friendship immediately become null and void under false pretenses. There is so much more to being friends with me aside from the color of my skin. (I'm hilarious, love Chipotle, and can sing almost every single Justin Timberlake song ever made, there are SO many more reasons to be my friend too). The only time I'm ever uncomfortable would have to be when anyone brings my race to the table. So this question is definitely my least favorite.

2. What's your opinion on Obama and Black Lives Matter?

Truthfully told, I think Obama is adorable. I wasn't old enough to vote when he was running, but like every previous President, I believe he did the best of his ability. Plus, Michelle Obama is one of the funniest First Ladies ever. I also connect with his daughter's on a spiritual level.

Literally, same.

I think Obama has a tough job, all leaders do. He's done the best of his ability and I wish him the best after his presidency. (I also can't thank him enough for the quality gas prices because $4 a gallon wasn't going to work with me)

While it's easy to want to talk about politics during this stressful time (are people seriously voting for Donald Trump?) this question becomes a problem when it's asked specifically due to my race.

When it comes to Black Lives Matter, truthfully told, I believe that the movement is important but has taken on a militaristic meaning that I can't say was intentional. African Americans have suffered quite a bit of oppression, and to this day they still are, and it's ridiculous that this even has to be a movement in 2016. That being said, I think "all lives matter" but that's not to ignore the horrible things that African-Americans have faced. No one life is more important than the other, but when racism is still prevalent, it's important to draw attention to the issue, hence the start of the Black Lives Matter movement.

3. Why do you "talk/act white?"

... Where do I even begin with this question? What does this mean?

I can only assume that you mean I don't act the way you think I should. How is that my problem?

When you ask why I 'Talk White', I have always rolled me eyes at this question. What does 'Talking White' even mean?

For some reason, speaking proper English has made me a walking paradox. Apparently I shouldn't be speaking what I'm surrounded with, rather, I should be speaking improper English. I can't even get into the conversation of what "talking white" even means without getting frustrated because it makes no sense whatsoever.

That being said, "talking white" goes hand in hand with the accusation of 'Acting White'

You generally reflect your surroundings, and bring raised in an affluent area, I was exposed to things like Starbucks, Uggs, and Victoria's Secret Pink.

1. Starbucks is delicious. I will never decline an Iced Coffee with White Chocolate Mocha Syrup.

2. Uggs are comfortable and I don't care what you think.

3. Pink has the most comfortable sweatpants I've ever had the blessing of putting on my body.

If any and all of these things make me "act white" then so be it. They're wonderful things. I don't think it's fair to be judged on personal interests. I like rap music, I love Beyoncé, and I absolutely love Popeye's. I think it's ridiculous to categorize and stereotype interests. I've literally never met someone who doesn't like Popeye's or Starbucks.

While I approached this subject in a joking manner, I hope that you understand the seriousness of this topic. Be careful of your own assumptions and stereotypes- they're actually pretty annoying and much more offensive than I believe are intended.


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