This isn't going to be a happy topic. When you're talking about cheating, nothing should be happy or enjoyable about it. Are you ready to dive into this sensitive subject? You're not alone, we are in this together. If it gets too uncomfortable, I won't be offended if you close the window.
Cheating is a very controversial topic no matter what age group we are talking about. But I'm just going to lay it on really thick for everyone reading this.
There are so many lies that a man will tell his girlfriend or even best friend to ease their mind that nothing is wrong. I am speaking from experience, unfortunately.
Here are a few we have heard a time or two.
1. "They're just a friend."
This is a big fat lie if she is in almost every picture on his phone and Facebook with smiley faces and hearts in the descriptions. If you guys are dating and this happens, it's clear that you are not the only girl other than his family that is on his mind. This is when you begin to ask friends if he has even told them that he has a girlfriend or if he's hiding a girl on the side when you're gone. Be careful when you're searching for the truth, pictures are easy to delete, but the lies last forever. It helps if you screenshot right when you see it. If you haven't been in a relationship with him for very long, leaving should be a good suggestion if it clearly looks like you're not his number one.
This is if they have just cheated.
2. "They didn't mean anything, I won't do it again, I love you."
Blah, blah blah. I really hope that none of you girls will ever give in to this pile of lies. All three of them aren't true. If she didn't mean anything to him, then he shouldn't have given her the time of day. Don't give the chance to never do it again. He shouldn't have done it in the first place. If he wasn't happy then he should have broken up and left. I love you is another untrue statement in order for him to keep you while having another girl in his life. I hope that you girls and guys are strong enough to asses the situation and make a decision with a clear mind. I trust that you will make the right one. I know that it will be hard. You won't want to do anything but scream and cry for the first few days.
3. "It was just that one time, I won't talk to them anymore."
If they are willing to cheat on you once, chances are that they will be willing to cheat on you again, multiple times even. They wouldn't have a care in the world about how it would affect you physically, emotionally, and mentally. If you haven't left them already, get up, and leave them now. Do whatever you have to do.
You are worth so much more than wasted time and not be valued. You are worth the world. Let someone else show you. If it helps to write a letter to them, write it but don't send it. This will help you release all of your feelings. You can also burn everything that they gave you.
