Relationships in college are becoming rarities, and it is even more rare to encounter healthy, monogamous ones. Guys (and girls) just don't want to commit any more. I understand wanting to be single while we're young and don't have life completely figured out, but why all the dishonesty? Why do people our age feel the need to make up excuses for not wanting to date?
Here are seventeen of the most common excuses guys make when they just don't want to commit:
1. "I'm not good enough for you."
Then why don't you get good enough.
2. "I don't want to mess things up."
You won't know unless you try, I guess.
3. "I care about you so much that it scares me."
There are worse things in life to fear than feelings.
4. "I've never felt this way about anyone else before."
Good, then we should definitely date.
5. "I wish I met you three years from now."
Well you didn't.
6. "I'm too young to be in a serious relationship."
Things happen when you least expect it, even when you're young.
7. "I want to hook up with other people."
He probably doesn't value you all that much if he's okay with you both hooking up with other people.
8."You're the type of girl I want to marry later on."
Then he better "wife"(college term for getting a girlfriend) you up now before someone else does.
9. "I'm too busy for a girlfriend."
If he has time for his friends, playing beer die and watching the NFL then I'm sure he can make time.
10. "I don't have enough spare time to be the boyfriend I'd want to be to you."
Priorities are important, just make sure you're one of his.
11. "I don't want to rush into things."
I don't mind taking it slow, but don't string me along if you don't ever plan on asking me out.
12. "I don't like labels."
Labels are important because they provide boundaries.
13. "I don't want to be tied down."
You have to be semi-tied down in order to have this conversation in the first place.
14. "I want to go party and not feel guilty."
You don't have to feel guilty for partying; just don't do anything you wouldn't want me to do.
15. "I don't want to date anyone right now, but if I did, it would be you."
So basically I'm awesome, but not awesome enough.
16. "Maybe when I'm a senior."
You're being selfish by asking me to wait for you.
17. "None of my friends have girlfriends."
If his friends jumped off a cliff, this guy probably would too.
Unfortunately, a lot of the reasons guys have for not wanting to date you seem sweet and even genuine. These words make you feel special, when in reality, they are just excuses covering for his fear of commitment.
Don't let sweet words cover up the fact that he does not value you enough to make you his girlfriend. Even though he might actually care about you, actions really do speak louder than words. It' s a harsh reality, but one you must come to terms with.
Obviously, every relationship, whether open or fully committed, is unique, and you have to decide what type is best both for yourself and for your partner. But if officially dating him is something you want, don't let his excuses fool you; if he had any intention of making you his girlfriend, he probably would have done so by now.
