11 Tips To Ace A First Date
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11 Tips To Ace A First Date

Keep these in mind if you have first date jitters.

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Everyone knows that when it's time for your first date, you’ll be nervous. Don’t worry its natural, people get nervous because they either: really like them, they’ve never dated before, or because they’re scared.

It's OK because no one everyone knows how the first date might go and for some it’s critical. For example, if a girl is on a date with an extremely attractive man, but he has the personality of a donkey, she doesn’t want a second date with the said donkey.

Of course, males and females are on different ends of the spectrum when it comes to how they handle the first date. Most girls look for whats wrong with the guy, whereas most guys look for what features they like most in the girl.

So, to help out my fellow daters I have made a list of things you can do to have a successful first date.


1. Dress to impress

You do want to make a good first impression right? So don’t dress like a slouch. If you’re a girl put on some makeup not too much but make your face look naturally flawless; if makeup isn’t your thing then put on some gloss and get on your way. Guys comb your hair yes we like the messy look, but no we don’t want that all the time. Also, everybody needs a shower before you go out. I don’t care if you think you smell like a field of daffodils.

2. Don’t judge a book by its cover

So you go downstairs to meet your date right? Okay and maybe he/she isn’t completely up to par don’t leave—I say this because you never know how that person’s home life may be. Okay so the date is going well, but maybe they have this one little quirk that isn’t that bad, but its really noticeable. Think to yourself is this really worth ending a date for if not them roll on and see if it goes away.

3. Don’t guide the conversation

Conversations. Don’t let one person lead them. They should be an open playing field. Although, there should be limits. For example: First, don’t talk about politics because and argument on the first date that is a no-no. Second and most important don’tdive in deep into the topic of past relationships, this will on make your date think they are a rebound, but if you are not emotionally stable say so.

4. Guys, be a Gentlemen

Guys, every girl likes gentlemen, yes it’s the 21st century and you would think that it’s not necessary, but it is unless you want to lose her to a southern boy with plenty of manners who wouldn’t mind being in your shoes. So, all you have to do is open a few doors, pull out a few chairs. Easy right? Okay good!

5. Ladies, be respectful

Ladies, don’t be rude with a rude facial expression on certain topics. Maybe, you’re a woman with a permanent RBF, but for a couple of hours check yourself. Be nice and engaging don’t cut him off because all you want to talk about is you.

6. No phones

When you’re on a date be it the first or be it the last don’t be on your phone at all. If you have a family emergency that’s different tell your date ahead of time so they won’t think you don’t want to be there. Being on your phone is borderline rude and disrespectful, so if your going to do that you shouldn’t have come in the first place.

7. Admit that there is an awkwardness

Yes, this is your first date with this random person. Yes, at first this date will be awkward but, admit that to each other upon meeting each other. If you don’t one of you at some point will make it awkward. For example, if you have drawn a blank and it’s now silent, laugh and point it out so your date will no it's okay.

8. Be upfront about your intentions

So say you went because a buddy set you up but you don’t want anything but a nightcap. Tell your datechances are that might be all they want too, but if you want it to go far and last a while tell them that too and feel out how they respond and how they act after the fact to see what may happen.

9. Don’t be afraid, ask questions

If you’re talking with your date and something they say or said was really interesting ask about it. Just because your getting to know each other doesn’t mean you can’t ask them a question. In all honesty, they might like that your engaged and want to know more, but don’t ask so many questions that you seem creepy. They might ditch out the back if you do that.

10. Listen to them

Guys, every girl like when all eyes are them. Ladies, every guy likes it when you ask them about their achievements in life. So do it flatter and butter up your date because the more you listen and pay attention to them the more you get to know and see if you want to go out with them again.

11. Don’t compromise yourself for your date

This is probably the most important tool I can give you. Do not under any circumstancescompromise who you are or what you believe to please your date. If you get to a topic and you have different opinions agree to disagree as not to ruin having a good time. Listen, if you get close to the end of this date and your date is being pushy wanting you to take them home or take you home even when you said no don’t be afraid to cut it short.


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