Today’s dating scene is an interesting one. With the move from traditional courtship to the boom of online dating, it has become harder to truly get to know someone. As a girl who has had a fair share of bad dates and heartbreaks, I am over wasting time on guys who are not worth a second thought.
Life is too short to put up with a guy's BS.
Unfortunately, many guys can put on a good show. It is often not until much later, when you're invested in the relationship, that you start to see his true colors. No matter the length of the relationship, one should never stay in a toxic or unhealthy situation. While we can't always notice the bad apples, here are some warning signs that your "perfect" guy may be bad news.
1. He starts making comments.
They start off small. A comment here about your attire. A comment there about something you said. Before you know it, he comments about everything.
2. He interrupts you.
It is usually a sign he is more interested in himself than listening to you. Additionally, it just means he's rude.
3. He uses jokes to put you down
He defends himself with “chill it’s just a joke” when you ask him to stop. If he does not stop, tell him to take his jokes elsewhere.
4. He belittles your opinion and beliefs.
It is ok to have differing opinions and beliefs than your significant other as long as there is two-way respect. What you believe is a part of what makes you unique. No guy should make you second guess yourself.
5. He does not own up to his actions.
He can do no wrong. It was the actions of everyone else that caused him to act poorly. He is always the victim of the situation.
6. He picks fights constantly.
All relationships are going to have disagreements. If he picks multiple fights a week over minute things, dump him and don’t look back.
7. It’s always your fault.
Take ownership of your actions but do not let him use you as a scapegoat for his poor behavior. Do not let him manipulate the situation to put the blame on you.
8. You can’t interact with any other guys without him getting angry or making snarky remarks.
This is a huge warning sign. If a guy cannot handle you talking to or having guy friends, tell him bye. Guys like this tend to be highly controlling and toxic.
9. You have to change yourself to appease him
Don’t ever change who you are because of any person, ESPECIALLY a guy.
10. He does not respect you.
Whether it is your values, your feelings, or your time, if he does not respect you, he does not deserve you.
Author's Note: This article can apply to guys and girls.
