The one that you love just broke up with you. Yes, it's hard. Especially if it came out of the blue with no explanation. You thought you had a while with this person,and if you ever broke up you thought you would at least be civil and have a clean breakup. But they're never really clean. There are some things you need to remember to pick yourself back up.
1. You will get through this.
It may not seem like it now, but this happened for a reason. If both partisans in a relationship are not happy, it's never going to work. You'll eventually be able to look back and see why it didn't work out.
2. It's OK to cry.
Crying is natural. Your body will be grieving the loss of this relationship, let it. Let it all out, and you will feel a lot better.
3. You're still amazing.
You may feel like it was all your fault or that you'll be completely lost without this person. You became emotionally dependent on this person, and it'll take a little bit until you get used to not having them to go to. You have to remember that the most important person in your life should be you, and that you don't need to be attached to someone to be you. You're amazing whether you're single or not.
4. Get any gift given by your ex out of sight.
Hide them in the back of your closet, give them back, or throw them out. It's your choice, but keeping them out of sight will prevent them from triggering sadness while your emotions are sore.
5. Hide/block your ex on social media.
Even if it is just temporary and you still want to be friends, you need to hide their posts for a bit. Give yourself enough time to get over what happened, without a reminder of the goings-on of their life.
6. You still have people who care about you.
Your ex is not the only person that is in your life. You still have friends and family who care about your well-being. Don't neglect them and wallow in your pain for too long, let them know that you are okay.
7. Go out with friends.
As hard as it may seem, you need to get out of the house. Get a friend or a few to go do anything that will take your mind off of what just happened. Don't distract yourself for too long though, otherwise it will hit you later than it should.
8. Go on dates with yourself.
Get dressed up and go out by yourself. You need to take time to take care of you. Go get a milkshake or a burger or both at a place you never went with this person. It'll remind you that you don't need to be dependent on someone to have fun.
9. This is time for you.
After a breakup is the best time to reevaluate who you are and what you want from life. You can change yourself, or stay the same, but you can figure out what's best for you moving forward-without your ex. Listen to some happy music; Spotify has plenty of playlists. Figure out what you want from life.
10. It's not the end of love.
It may feel like you'll never be capable of loving another human being right now. That's part of the heartbreak. You will get through this, you will move on, and probably find another human being to give your heart to. Just be sure to take some time for yourself first, and make sure you are okay emotionally before entering a new relationship.
Right now, your world has been rocked-but you need to remember it's not the worst event that has ever happened to you. Don't wallow in sadness, you need to be able to move on with your life. You are you, no matter who is or isn't in your life, keep it that way.
