Breakups are rough for everyone. We all seem to find our own individual ways to cope. Some of us like to listen to music or talk with friends. Something I do is read inspiring and or encouraging quotes. I love finding a quote that perfectly states how I'm feeling and what I'm going through. These quotes provide me with a new perspective. In light of a painful breakup, here are 4 quotes that I have found to be extremely helpful.

“The only people who matter are those who make an effort to be in your life, and chasing after people will never get you what you want." -anonymous

As you continue to go through life, you will find the people that truly deserve a place in your journey. Therefore, don’t waste time pursuing people that aren’t right for you. It will become clear throughout your life who is here to stay, and who needs the boot out. After a breakup, it’s important to remember that no matter how much you want to be hung-up over him or her, you recognize the people that love you and support you. Hang on to these people.

“Moving on doesn’t mean you forget about things. It just means you have to accept what happened and continue living.”

Never think that you have to forget. Sometimes, living through the memories not only helps you get through the breakup, but also helps you to move on. The pain reminds you that it happened. This painful bliss may last longer than you would like, but in the end it has the potential to propel you towards becoming yourself again, if not a healthier and happier version.

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'" -Jeremiah 29:11

Remember, God has a plan for you. It’s nearly impossible to see at times, especially after a breakup, but it will become apparent in time. We always like to think that every bad event that happens to us is the end of the world. The sooner you learn to live, and continue living after He throws you a curveball, the sooner you can live a fulfilling life. Don’t get hung up on what happened; instead be excited for what the future holds.

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

Change your perspective. Be positive. Give yourself time to grieve and be upset. Then you have to look at the breakup in a more positive light. Recognize the pain, but then recognize why it happened and move on. Positivity is the best medicine for a breakup. As everyone says, everything happens for a reason. Stay positive, this will not be the last boy or girl to walk into your life. Your person is out there.