1. "Too Young"
You're 16 years old. You can make decisions for yourself, and think on your own. Do not let anyone tell you what you can and can not do. You are the creator of your life, and the only real input that matters is your own. There is no shame in being confused and asking for help, but you're decisions are your's to make.
2. Love
You may be scared of the concept of love, what it is and what it can be. At some point, you may say that you don't believe in it, but that's just you fearing that it doesn't exist. Despite making fun of 16 year olds that have been dating for two weeks stating that they're in love, you are allowed to feel in love. You feel the way you feel.
3. Walls
You are allowed to have walls. You are allowed to have barriers. You don't have to say anything you don't want to. Letting your guard down is a tricky thing, so make sure that when you do you're ready.
4. Pressure
Never feel like you have to do anything that you don't want to. If you don’t want to eat a cookie that someone puts in your hands, don’t eat it. You make decisions for yourself and shouldn't ever feel bad for saying no.
5. Your Gut
Your gut feeling is your gut feeling. Call it like you feel it. Theres a difference between doing what you want to do, and doing what you WISH you wanted to do. If you can feel that something isn't right for you don't force yourself into it. Instinct almost never fails us.
6. Others
Never find yourself at fault when it comes to other peoples actions. You may have been there when something happened, but it’s not always your job to prevent it. You aren’t allowed to blame yourself for things you didn’t do and things you can't control.
7. Expectations
Things aren’t always going to turn out the way you plan, but that shouldn’t prevent you from getting your hopes up. Keep your expectations high even though it may not work out. There will always be another party, boy, concert, class, you name it. So let yourself be excited and get psyched even though it might not work out. Stay positive.
8. "Love Yourself First"
Never believe the saying “You have to love yourself before you can let anyone else love you." That's bullshit. You are allowed to let someone love you despite your insecurities. You don’t have to believe you are beautiful, to have some else call you that.
9. You're You
Don't you dare give up one second of your time to someone who doesn’t accept you for who you are. Do not change yourself to better someone else. You are you, not whomever someone else wants you to be.
10. The Good
Look for the good in people. Find reasons to love them instead of reasons to resent them. You may fight with someone you love on the daily, and they may be hard to live with, but think about how much harder she would be to live without.
