We all fall into different categories in our friend groups. Even in our homes, we seem to have a certain characteristic that pertains to us specifically. For some of us we have blessed and cursed with the title: The Pushover. There's many positives and negatives about being a pushover. Your friends easily pick up on it, and you can sometimes be taken advantage of. At the same time you are seen as the sweet and caring friend. In your home, being a pushover isn't the easiest because sometimes siblings will ask you to do things they know you can't say "no" to. Pushovers are sometimes known as "weaklings" or "feeble." For us, being a pushover is just part of who we are and that's never going to change. As a pushover, we all can relate to many different things in our lives. These are struggles you know as a pushover:
1. Going out to eat with your friends always seems to empty your wallet, not theirs.
Somehow your friend "forgot" their wallet for the third time this month. Sometimes they even "lost their credit card," either way it's always assumed you will be there to spot them even if you haven't worked in two months.2. You always seem to be the friend who gets to tag along for all of the "fun" and "exciting" errands your friends have to run.
Your friends always text you to say, "I don't want to go alone!" You're guilted into going to a Zumba class or to their doctor's appointments with them when you had better things to do.
3. You try to stay away from anyone who bats their eyelashes or pouts their lower lip.
It’s hard enough for you to say "no" to your friends when they ask a favor. If they add in a puppy pout you couldn’t imagine ever saying "no."
4. When someone uses manners, there’s no going back.
Whenever your friends ask for a favor you may double think it, but if they add a “prettttyyyyyy please” to the end of their question- you’ll never turn them down.
5. You dread the phrase, “Can you do me a HUGE favor?”
While this huge favor is usually something actually pretty small, we still cringe when we hear it. Your friends have learned by now that you can’t say "no" and they take advantage of your kindness.
6. When a co-worker asks for their shift covered, you can say goodbye to your weekend plans.
Your co-workers will text you with a huge reason as to why they can’t work Friday night. While making more money isn’t a bad thing, you can’t help but think they’re lying about their “boyfriends-mothers-sisters-husband's” cat dying.
7. You seem to carry all the weight of your friend’s issues on your own back.
You may have enough problems of your own, but your friends know that you will always be there to help them out with anything they could need help with. They dump a huge amount of responsibility on you and you can’t help but try to balance it all.
8. “I don’t want to” is not part of your vocabulary.
As much as you would sometimes like to shoot down helping your friends, you can’t let them know how you feel about helping out. You always fake a smile and help them with whatever they need.
9. You pretend everything is always fine.
When someone spills coffee all over your new white shirt, you can’t yell at him or her. Whenever a friend is rude to you, you try to tell them it’s not okay but you can’t help but pretend it’s fine. You’ll regret you not saying anything later but for now, you’ll let it go.
10. You apologize for everything, even when it’s not your fault.
You always just smile, laugh, and tell them that it’s fine and you shouldn’t have been in the way anyways. Do you apologize for things that are way out of your control because who else would apologize for global warming if you didn’t?
