10 Signs You May Be in a Toxic Relationship
Whether you see these signs in a friend or significant other, these signs may help you decipher if this person in your life is really necessary to keep around or not.
- 1. Constantly Searching for Their Approval.
You may find yourself searching for approval from this person, everything you do will always be seen through their eyes first. You’ll notice that you tend to do things they will only approve of, even if it means you’re not happy with it. You will constantly see yourself only content with a decision when this person decides it is okay.
- 2. Your Wants Will Always Come Second to Theirs.
It will never matter what you want, because it's always what they want. If you want to do something else, you’ll always be expected to drop your wants for theirs. You’ll probably do this automatically without a second thought, you’ll always try your hardest to reach their needs; even if that means excluding what is important to you.
- 3. You’re Always in the Wrong Even When You’re Right.
You’ll stray from arguing with this person because in the end you’ll know you’re always going to be wrong anyways. Everything you say will be ignored and not considered, even if you have a valid point. What they say goes, any argument will have you apologizing in the end, even if you did nothing wrong. This person will constantly make you feel like you’ve created the issue in the first place.
- 4. This Person Will Never Show Support.
When this person needs advice or a shoulder to cry on you’re always there, you’re always a phone call away. Surprisingly when you need them they are no where to be found. You’ll often vent to this person but the conversation will always turn back on their problems somehow, they will never give the time of day to listen to what is truly wrong and won’t show you that they care.
- 5. They Tend to Control Every Aspect of Your Life.
Everything you do will have to be under their control. They will make decisions for you, important or not they will decide what is always best for you. The decisions they make should never be questioned, only they know what is good for you. You’ll see that it’ll start to be difficult deciding anything without them.
- 6. This Person Is Often Negative.
This person will always see the glass half empty, things that may make you happy will seem stupid and irrelevant to them. They’ll also constantly put you down, if you feel good about something they will find a way to make you feel upset. You’ll notice that they tend to thrive off drama and will put many others down as well.
- 7. You’ll Never Be Good Enough.
You’ll try really hard to do everything you can to please them but nothing will be good enough. Everything you do will never meet the standards that you feel they’ve set for you. You will receive praise from others surrounding you but never from this particular person.
- 8. The Good is Ignored and the Bad is Over Examined.
We are all human; we all mess up but to this person it’ll be blown way out of proportion. You’ve done many good things for this person and those times never matter. Then the very minimal time you mess up, everything good you’ve done will be forgotten and you’ll be seen as a bad person.
- 9. They’ll Always One Up You.
Everything you do will always be out done by this toxic person. If you get something nice, they’ll try to get something better. You’ll always be one step down from them because they’ll constantly aim to always be better than you.
- 10. You’ll Never Feel 100% Comfortable Around Them.
Being around this person will constantly make you look over your shoulder. You’ll feel like they are always breathing down your neck and judging everything you do. You’ll maybe find yourself keeping things to yourself to refrain from hearing the judgment you know they’ll give. You will never truly be able to confide in this person.
These are 10 signs that help you decide if this person is worth the stress they may be causing you.
They may not carry all 10 characteristics but carrying more than half is worth a thought. Toxic people are surrounding us all, it may be easy to get yourself in a toxic relationship and difficult to get out of, it's easy to look past the flaws. Even then, being in a toxic relationship can highly affect your life and mood. It is important to always put yourself first in situations that may affect you in a toxic way.
