It’s hard enough being a young woman in this day and age, and recently there has been so much negativity in the news and on social media surrounding political views. http://rupikaur.comRupi Kaur is a woman who has inspired me with her beautifully written poems. Her poems come from personal experiences, but they make readers relate. Her pieces are about everything from feeling not good enough, to difficult relationships, and dealing with discrimination of race or gender. But they all have a common thread which is resilience and empowering women to love themselves. Feminism, strength, and positivity are things that deserves to be written about and shared, and Rupi Kaur does it with grace and beauty. Her words are what we as women need to hear.
There are so many health crazes out there now, it's hard to tell what actually works and what doesn't; or more importantly what is healthy and what is making your body worse. I read about simply drinking lemon water and I figured that didn't sound gross or bad for me so I figured I would give it a try. I've been drinking it consistently for a week and a half and I already notice some results.
I've never been a fan of lemon in my water, I always refuse it at restaurants. You definitely have to find your sweet spot in lemon to water ratio, in what tastes good to you. I personally cut the lemon into quarters and use on quarter per day. I put the lemon quarter in the bottle and then continuously fill with water throughout the day. I still get the yummy lemon flavor all day because I do not squeeze the lemon. It took about a bottle or two to get used to the lemon flavor, and now I just crave it.
Lemon water is supposed to speed up your metabolism. Obviously, a week is not long enough to tell if this is fact or fiction but I have noticed a change in appetite. I feel like I do not get hungry as often as I did before. I saw this effect within 24-48 hours of starting the experiment. This seems opposite to a fast metabolism but we'll see.
I definitely feel more hydrated with lemon water. I drink a lot of water anyways, about 80 oz a day but for some reason with the lemon, it makes me feel better. I don't feel as sluggish, I'm not getting hot as easily, and my skin feels amazing. I am slightly skeptical though because the lemon almost makes my tongue dry requiring me to drink more water, so I have upped my intake by about 20oz. I'm unsure if the hydration is due to the extra water, the lemon, or both!
My face is clearing up and feels so much softer too, in only a week! I have not gotten a new pimple since I have started my lemon water kick, may be coincidence but I'm not going to argue with it.
I also feel skinnier as I feel like I'm not holding as much water weight. I only exercise lightly, for the most part, walking around a mile or two a day so we can eliminate exercise factor to the slender feeling.
I have a messy stomach. Everything upsets it, and even though lemons are very acidic, they have not affected me in a negative way at all. It almost seems like the lemon water is helping me digest the difficult foods that my stomach doesn't like. I'm nowhere near a doctor so don't trust my word but it seems to be working for me.
From the effects I've felt so far, it also seems like lemon water may be a great hangover cure! I haven't tried it but I don't see why it wouldn't work. I can't say a negative thing about drinking lemon water so far expect you have to buy the lemons! If you try this for yourself though just make sure you are using an enamel saving mouthwash or toothpaste since lemons aren't so great for your teeth.
In 2011, after a Toronto police officer said that women could reduce their chances of being raped by dressing more 'modestly' and not like sluts, Sonya Barnett began organizing an event called SlutWalk. The main reasons for the event were to protest victim-blaming in rape cases and evolve into reclaiming insulting words such as 'slut' for women. These initial reasons seemed perfect to protest about, but have turned into something much different over the years and most of these girls don't even know what they're protesting anymore.
An event that started off with just a couple thousand people and some signs has turned into millions of satellite events around the world, trying to embody what the first SlutWalk meant, but not doing it very well. It has become an event where women parade around their major cities mostly half-naked, waving around their slogans and fists in the air.
Just a quick Google search of SlutWalk brings up many images from all around the world, of women with their breasts out and the word slut is everywhere. They even come up with catchphrases like "consent is sexy" and "tell men not to rape". We'll get to why these things are damaging to everyone, but specifically does more harm than good for women.
Firstly, I would like to say that bringing attention to victim blaming is important. I am not alluding that that conversation shouldn't be happening, but a SlutWalk is definitely not the way to do it.
When you're walking around with duct tape over your nipples, I don't see somebody who is fighting to end victim blaming. Saying, "consent makes me wet", does not aid in the fight. Things that help survivors while avoiding victim blaming is offering resources to victims and families of victims, understanding how the brain responds to trauma or taking steps to not put yourself in that situation. Do you ask for it? No. Does getting drunk mean you ask for it? No. Does wearing a skirt mean you're asking for it? NO.
None of those things mean you're asking for it, but you still need to be conscious and aware of your surroundings. We should focus on promoting women protecting themselves and others. If your friends are going to a shady frat party that has a bad rep, maybe don't go. If you do still go, be in a large group. Communicate with each other constantly, only take drinks from each other or yourself, and make sure there is at least one sober person to watch for anybody who may become intoxicated or high.
If you walk alone, you shouldn't be afraid of rape. No, we shouldn't have to worry about being raped, but there are still things we can do to protect ourselves and I'm sick of radical feminists claiming that I shouldn't carry weapons, or shouldn't have to/want to. I have the constitutional right to protect myself with a knife, a gun, pepper spray, my fists, etc. if I am being attacked and I fully intend to protect that right for every woman.
Another thing that SlutWalk seemingly doesn't address is their damaging catchphrases and how exclusionary they are. I don't see one sign talking about trans women being raped or drag queens being raped after shows. If your event was created to end victim blaming and spread the word about this stuff, why aren't you including all of these millions of people that (sometimes) get raped more than your group of women?
And why do we put out this subliminal message that hypersexuality is what makes women feel empowered? There are so many things that add value to a woman other than her body or her sexuality. Thanks.
And the signs? Ugh.
"Consent is sexy!" Actually, consent is a basic human right.
"Consent makes me wet." Again, it's a basic human right, not a fetish.
"Don't tell women how to dress, tell men not to rape."
This is damaging for several reasons. Nobody is telling anybody that you should rape. Nobody is sitting there patting their son on the back and telling him to up his numbers, that's not happening. We all know that rape is inherently wrong. This also fails to acknowledge men that get raped by other men. What slogan do you have for that? Where are your signs protecting men who are victims? There's a special kind of hypocrisy I smell in the air. The only kind of activism this is actively excluding men from the conversation of rape.
Also, let me just add that prancing around naked and painting slut on your back does NOTHING for rape victims or fellow women. Half of the 'feminists' I know use that same word against fellow women to shame them, so you guys clearly aren't doing a very good job at 'reclaiming' this phrase. You also just look kind of dumb wearing nothing but duct tape, but that's more of a personal opinion. It mostly seems like white women collaborating with and being protected by police at these events, which does nothing for people of color, different genders, or socioeconomic statuses that can't go to the police.
I'll say it once more than discussing victim blaming and rape is important. Of course, nobody ever asks to be raped. I know I didn't, but there were also things I could've done to protect myself that I didn't think about. Am I hurt? No. And this isn't 'internalized misogyny' either, it's all about risk factors. You're at risk for certain things due to other certain things that happen and there's nothing wrong with admitting that.
In all, don't go to SlutWalk. Go to women's shelters, LGBTQ+ centers, men's shelters, and spread education about protecting yourself. Spread love and teach self-love. Calling yourself a slut does nothing for anybody, especially not yourself.