Dating is complicated. It can be fun and energizing or leave you feeling confused and exhausted. When you start to become interested in someone new, things can start out great and suddenly end abruptly with no warning.
If you're ever in this situation, you may be confused and frustrated by why the situation ended the way it did. However, there may have been many warning signs you simply didn't notice during your time with this person. Ignoring the signs can leave you perusing the wrong person, and can make dating seem exhausting instead of fun and exciting like it should be.
So before you dive back into the dating world, or you're just starting to see someone new, be on the look-out for these dating dealbreakers. These are the 10 red flags to never ignore.
1. They're flakyGiphy
If they're always coming up with excuses for why they can't meet up or cancel plans last minute, it may be time to re-think if you should keep them in your life. Life happens, everyone can be busy but no one is ever THAT busy.
Remember, if they're really into you, they will make time to see you and talk to you. Besides, if someone is super flaky at the beginning of a relationship, it's only going to get worse over time.
2. Your friends and family don't like themGiphy
When you really like someone, you tend to put them on a pedestal and only see their good qualities. Blinded by infatuation, you often fail to recognize any bad qualities about this person. However, your loved ones will notice everything about this person. If anyone who cares about you says that this person isn't good for you, hear them out.
3. They treat you different in public than they do in privateGiphy
If someone is treating you like a queen when they're just with you and they suddenly do a complete 180 when they're around other people, ditch them. You deserve to be with someone who is going to show you off and be proud to be with you.
So don't settle for someone who doesn't make you feel like the incredible person that you are 100% of the time!
4. They take forever to text backGiphy
Okay this one is tough because life happens and people get busy, but if they're constantly taking forever to text you back, it may be time to rethink how much energy you are giving to this person. If someone is taking forever to text you or is constantly leaving you on open, chances are they see you as an option instead of a priority.
So if this is the case, stop texting them first and wait for them to reach out to you. If they don't, then you know they're not worth your time and you deserve to be with someone who is gonna give you their time.
5. They never ask about youGiphy
Healthy relationships shouldn't be therapy sessions. Of course, the person you're with should be able to rely on you for support, but it shouldn't ALWAYS be about them.
If this person never asks about you and only wants to talk about themself and everything going on in their life, then they are not worth your time.
You deserve someone who cares about you and someone you can rely on for support.
6. You always stay in because they never wanna go outGiphy
This goes hand-in-hand with someone acting differently in public than in private. The person you're with should be wanting to do stuff with you like going to the movies, going out for coffee, or even cooking a meal together.
If they only suggest staying in and don't want to do anything else with you, it's time to rethink your relationship (unless you want a casual relationship of course). But if you're looking for something more, you need to communicate your needs to this person.
Don't let fear of the relationship ending prevent you from speaking up. You could be spending time instead with someone who actually wants to do fun things with you!
7. He or she insists on keeping your relationship secretiveGiphy
This is definitely a more obvious red flag. If someone is being secretive about your relationship, they obviously don't want other people to know about you.
This could mean a number of things: they're not over their ex, they're taking to other people or they're just using you. Whatever this situation is, save yourself some trouble and just cut ties with this person.
You deserve to have someone in you're life who's proud to have you and brags about you to their family and friends.
8. They haven't introduced you to their friendsGiphy
You shouldn't expect to meet someone's friends if you've only gone out a couple of times. But, if things are starting to move along, and they seem to keep putting off introducing you to their friends, something could be up.
Either they're not that serious about you or they just don't know what they want.
If you're looking for a relationship, you're probably not going to find it with this person. When someone truly cares about you, they want you to meet the people who are important to them.
9. You're giving more than you're gettingGiphy
Relationships can be difficult at times but they should never be too complicated. You shouldn't be constantly jumping through hoops to keep someone interested or having to always analyze their texts.
If you are giving like 80% and the other person is only giving 20%, then this relationship isn't benefiting you. Dating should be fun not stressful and energy-consuming.
As difficult as it is to come to terms with, you have to remember that if this person really wanted to be with you, they would be.
So don't give this person a second more of your valuable time and give some of that love and energy to yourself!
10. They don't make you feel good about yourselfGiphy
Finally, a healthy relationship should make you feel good. The relationship should not leave you feeling drained, confused or simply unworthy. If you're treating this person like a priority and they're treating you like an option, let them go.
You need to realize your worth and not settle for anyone who is going to give you anything less. You deserve someone who will treat you right and add to who you are as a person. Find the courage to love yourself; even if it means losing the other person.
Someday someone will come into your life who makes you feel amazing and is so compatible with you. When this happens, you will be relieved you let all your other relationships go and waited for one that mattered.