There is no such thing as a perfect boyfriend. Nicholas Sparks might have made you a believer that the perfect guy is out there, and Disney might have given you false hope for a Prince Charming, but real men are problematic.
1. He does not make time for you.
All relationships need personal time for you and your man to be able to spend some alone time together. Going on dates and hanging out are essential to having a healthy relationship. If your boyfriend does not set aside enough time for the two of you to be a couple, then your relationship is not going to last.
2. Your boyfriend does not care about your interests.
Talking about your passions and interests should be easy to do with the one you are dating. If he shows absolutely no interest in your hobbies and passions then he is not the right one. Even giving a little effort, like asking about your favorite TV shows or your new workout schedule, will show that he is at least trying to connect with you.
3. He's only got that "one thing" on his mind.
We all know that all boys are obsessed with sex. It is probably all they think about, whether we like to admit it or not. Your boyfriend is no different. Just because he is dating you does not mean he magically stops thinking about sex all the time. But if that's ALL he thinks about, then you've got yourself a problem.
4. He is OBSESSED with a fantasy football league.
I have been around enough guys to know that fantasy football can ruin their weekend and their mood. A bad week in their fantasy league can result in your boyfriend losing money as well as his temper. A fantasy league is like mild gambling, but he can lose money easily. Fantasy football is an obsession that your boyfriend should ditch if he wants to be in a long term relationship with you.
5. He does not spoil you the way you deserve.
Realize that you are the best thing our boyfriend will ever get! You need to be treated like that! You are amazing! Your boyfriend needs to be grateful that you are in his life, and he needs to remind you frequently. He does not need to buy you new diamond earrings ever other week, but flowers and little things that show you that he keeps you in mind is something every girl deserves.
6. Your boyfriend never takes charge of planning dates.
No one likes the "I do not know what we should do," statement when you're hanging out with your boyfriend. If he does not attempt to make the plans but instead leaves you to do the planning, that may lead you to think that he does not care enough. Making plans is also essential to relationships, because it gives the two of you alone time.
7. Your dad does not like him.
Dads know it all. They can see when a boy is undeserving of their little girl months before anyone else. When your dad does not like your boyfriend, he probably has a good reason.
8. He is controlling.
Having a controlling boyfriend is like having someone watch over your every move every hour of every day. Being protective of you is one thing, but when he gets mad about who you're hanging out with or what you are doing in your free time, that's another. If your boyfriend is controlling, you need a new one.
9. Your boyfriend is immature.
Being with a boy that is immature is like having to babysit a full grown man. It is not fun or cute, and it's definitely is not worth your time. Maturity comes with age for sure, but it is not something you should wait around for.
10. He flirts with your friends.
THIS. IS. VERY. PROBLEMATIC. Your boyfriend should not flirt with anyone, and if he does, it should definitely not be one of your friends (and if your friend flirts back, you might need to get new friends). Flirting with other people shows that he is not serious about your exclusive relationship. Flirting with your friends shows that he doesn't really care about you.
