10 Reasons I Am SO Over Whatever It Is Millennials Call 'Dating'
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10 Reasons I Am SO Over Whatever It Is Millennials Call 'Dating'

I'm sorry but if you're not ready to commit, don't date at all.

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10 Reasons I Am SO Over Whatever It Is Millennials Call 'Dating'
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1. No one goes on dates anymore

When was the last time a guy explicitly asked a girl on a date? Does that even happen anymore? I don't know if it is lack of confidence, fear of commitment, or just carelessness, but regardless, no one wants to title anything. It's always "hanging out" or "chilling."

2. Acts of common respect are now deemed as "old-fashioned"

When was the last time a boy came to your door to pick you up instead of texting "here"? When was the last time a boy walked inside before the first date and shook your father's hand? When was the last time a boy asked your father for permission to take you out? When was the last time a boy made sure to have you home at a decent time without you having to nag him? Let's just say it's been a while for most of us.

3. Everything is through technology

We meet people through technology, flirt with people through technology, get to know people through technology, and build relationships through technology. It would be nice to meet someone organically through a common interest rather than swiping right on an app.

4. Playing games is the "norm"

No one explicitly shares how they feel. It is all a guessing game. How can I make them jealous? Who should text first? How should we hint at our feelings without showing them? We want them to know we are interested, but we don't want to seem desperate. It's exhausting and immature. If you want to be with someone, you should just say it.

5. No one is creative

If you are lucky enough to get asked on a date, it's a rare occasion you will be presented with a fun, original idea. Movies and dinner every Friday night, am I right? There's no effort behind that.

6. Premarital sex is normalized

Most of you will label me old fashioned or prude when you read this one, but I am someone who believes in waiting until marriage. Why are so many people shocked by this? Now it's normal to have sex on the first date. In fact, it's normal to have a relationship that is only sexual. This is unhealthy and objectifying for both parties. What happened to "making love?"

7. "Talking" is a heavily-used term

OK, WHAT? Why is this a thing? I talk to people every day. The term is dating. If you're going on dates that are dating. Then, if it progresses, you're in a relationship. Stop being afraid to label things. Get used to it.

8. People are scared to catch "the feels"

I'm sorry, but I thought to have feelings for someone was the point of dating? I don't know maybe I'm wrong.

9. The dreaded term "Ghosting" exists

If you are unfamiliar with the term, it basically means texting/flirting/dating someone and then out of nowhere ignoring them. If you are uninterested, then just say so. There is no need to leave people guessing. Quit being immature and tell people how you feel.

10. Everyone is scared to commit

It's normally for people to talk, play mind games, get physical, and then end the relationship because they are scared. I'm sorry but if you're not ready to commit, don't date at all.

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