Being in a military relationship can be tough. No matter how easy and cute it may look, the long days & lonely nights are sometimes unbearable. its not always bad though, sometimes it’s great. Being married to a military man has taught me all sorts of thinge. Beginning with The time apart is way more than the time together. Between 24 hour duties, field ops, range trips & of course deployments, you learn to cherish the time spent together like no other. Even if it’s just doing little things like watching him play video games, or just playing on the swings at the park. You learn to cherish the little things. It’s taught me that time and patience are real. Being a spouse, you never know exactly what’s going to happen since everything is so last minute. Sometimes it gets frustrating and overwhelming especially when you want to plan cute little vacations. Don’t plan to far in advance because believe me, they’ll find somewhere for your honey to go the week before your vacation is planned. You have to be very patient, it’s not like a normal 9-5 job. You learn distance And all sorts of different time zones. its Easy to make it work though, because technology is amazing. FaceTime calls, Skype, even Texting. It’s always fun counting down the days til your honey comes home. The only tricky part about that is, time zones. Being in two different ones can be tough because when you want to sleep, their just waking up. But you sacrafice your sleep just to talk to them. One of my favorite things, you always get to have another first kiss. Even if it’s just been 3 weeks, maybe even a few days. That excitement and joy you feel being able to hug and kiss your spouse takes you back to when you were a little kid and got butterflies like crazy lol. It’s interesting. You get to see your spouse all dressed up in military blues and just basic cami’s, and lets be honest wifeys we just adore them. You have to have good communication and trust, because If you don’t, your relationship will not last very long. My husband and I have a very open relationship with each other, we never go to sleep on our problems or disagreements, were able to sit and talk it out like normal adults should be able to do. Trust can be a real deal breaker. Especially with the time apart, If you don’t have trust then the distance can break you. You’ll constantly be wondering what if he’s doing this, or what if she’s doing that instead of being able to know your partner is completely 100% loyal and committed to you. You learn to adapt to change, sometimes appreciate it. I moved 3 hours away to be with my husband, I was scared. I didn’t know anyone and I thought I wouldn’t have any friends, come to find out I’ve made two very best friends, Morgan & Jessica, who are also military wives but part of the military as well. You’d think it would be lonely, but nope. With these girls here it’s always laughs and smiles. Becomming friends with other spouses is amazing because they know exactly what you’re going through, so you’re never alone. You pick up on tons of military terms, before you know it you’ll be telling military time instead of regular. You learn to block out the fighter jets that sound like UFO’s at 6 in the morning. However it isn’t always as tough. Getting to say your husband is a United States Marine proudly, and knowing what he is doing for this country is amazing , makes you proud on the inside and gives you a sense of joy. You spend more time laughing and playing verses arguing and fighting because you have so much space, and your time is limited because like I said with the military you never know when he’ll get sent out. The best part of it all, is being with your best friend. Knowing this is the person you fell in love with, what he does is amazing. You get to be with this person for days at a time, and when their gone you miss them like crazy but give it two days of them being back and they annoy you all over again. It’s tough at times, but our military relationship is unbreakable and that’s what I love most. It makes us stronger, better & Braver.
