Read that sub-headline again: Your worth is NOT defined by your relationship status.
You might be thinking that I am crazy because all of society is telling us that unless we have a boyfriend or girlfriend, we are not worth anything. That there is something inherently wrong with us that is unexplainable.
I am here to tell you though that your worth and who you are as a person are NOT defined by your singleness, even though technology, social media, and even TV shows and movies give everyone this false expectation of having to be in a relationship constantly. While being in a relationship is amazing, take advantage of your singleness! There are so many things that you cannot do once you have that special someone.
Go travel the world, learn a new language, train and compete in a marathon! Love yourself right where you are at.
Still, I can see some of you aren't convinced. I'll give myself an example. I am 19 years old, and I have never had a boyfriend. Crazy, right? I don't think it is, actually! I'll be willing to bet that so many of you are in the same situation.
When I am meeting someone new, I always get the infamous, "You've never been in a relationship?!? What? But you're so..." and then they start listing the qualities that I have that would be attractive to a potential suitor.
I know that when my time comes, and I find my person, I will be ready.
I will be ready to give him all of those qualities that people list, and more. I know that this season of singleness is not meant to break me, but it is meant to MAKE me into the person that I was born to be. Even more so, singleness allows us to be made into the person that we want our person to be.
Take this season for granted. Think of all of the qualities that you want to look for in a future spouse, and ask yourself: "Am I portraying those qualities as well?" We attract what we are, and vice versa. So, if you really want your person to be the kindest one in the room, strive for kindness. If you want them to be able to command a room with their confidence, work on yours!
Singleness allows us room to grow into the person that our person is waiting for. So, this Valentine's Day, instead of moping and staying holed up in your room, wallowing in your self-pity that you are alone yet again on Valentine's Day, do something to benefit yourself. Go on a walk, go to the beach, have a fun girls-night-out or a night with the dudes playing Fortnite, or whatever guys do.
Love yourself. Because at the right time, your right person will learn to love you, too.
