Back in the day, couples were married young. 16, 17, & 18 being some ages. As times went on, here in the modern century a lot of people have started pushing the age back, almost in their 30’s when their getting married for the first time. That is perfectly fine, by all means. They want to have a career, be stable enough & be able to handle whatever life throws at them on a curve ball with no problems, which is perfectly fine. However, when I met my sweetheart, I knew he would be the one I wanted to be with forver. Even if we were just only a few weeks shy of turning 19. We were together for almost 4 months, married on the 5th. So when he asked the question, of course I said “Yes.” Two short months later, we stood in our best friends kitchen and said “I do.” You can imagine the Critism I got, with a lot of people, even my family saying, you are too young, you don’t know each other well enough, it’s gonna crash before you know it, even you’ll get divorced in a year. When people see my ring on my finger, I get glares. Some good, some ugly. Most people make the comment “she’s to young to get married, she doesn’t even know herself, or what she’s worth.” that’s the thing though, i’ve Been through enough trials and tribulations to know who I am, what I want out of life, and how to achieve it. Nothing’s changed except, my last name. I just get to go through life with my signifigant other by my side for everything. A lot of people think i’m Missing out on being young and having fun, but believe me, I much rather be curled up on the couch eating cold pizza and watching scary movies with my best friend verses out at a college frat party with people I barely know. My husband and I haven’t been together long, but when you know, you just know. He’s my best friend, the one who I tell all my secrets to and run to when i’m Feeling down. We know each other well enough to know that this is what we both wanted. all the “you’re going to miss out on the best years of your life” comments, let me just say, the past 6 months have been the best of my life. Being married young, it can be exciting and scary at the same time. However if your relationship has good communication, you trust one another & are just happy to be in each other prescense, then it can truly be something beautiful. being married at 19 should be okay. It shouldn’t be frowned upon just because we live in a hook up with everyone culture. I’m still going to school, getting a degree and my husband still has his military career. We both get to live our lives and have fun, just with each other instead of alone. The harsh comments and criticism we got, only motivated us to stay together more and prove everyone wrong. That we can be 19, married and truly happy. My response to every negative comment will always be the same, just because it doesn’t work out for someone else who got married young, doesn’t mean it won’t work for us. You see everyone is different, it’s about the respect and love you have for one another to make it through. I’ve gained so much more being married this past month than I would have lost being in the best years of my life. I’ve gained a supporter in everything I do, every decision and every choice, he is my biggest fan. I’ve gained a sidekick, to go on fun adventures with and travel with. I have gained a best friend, someone who is always in my corner and ready to listen to every single problem I have. I’ve gained a person who is with me forever, through the good and bad, someone who will always love me unconditionally. I’m not saying being married at 30, is bad, but being married at 19 feels great. Others shouldn’t shame upon a young marriage because its against our moral standards in today’s world. Be happy for that person, wish them good luck. Because they’ll need it. Being married isn’t easy Every day, and it is a lot of work and a lot of putting differences aside for the bigger picture, but it is fun, it’s exciting and worth it. I’m happy where I am, and with my choice of being married at 19. I wouldn’t go back and change it for anything in this world.
