I know how bad you are hurting. I know how much it sucks.
You feel like he jabbed his iron hand straight into your chest, clinched your heart\ and ripped it out, only for the purpose to throw it away.
Why did he do this? He said he loved me. Where do I go now? What do I do?
You’re asking yourself so many questions and the one person you want to answer them isn’t there anymore. Maybe you’re in pain because you think there’s something you should have done at the time, or something you can do now to mend things between the two of you. Maybe you decided in your mind a long time ago that he was “The One”, and yeah, I get that it’s hard to rearrange your way of thinking once you’ve had that one mindset for a while. Or maybe you just feel like you’re sinking and you don’t know who to reach for or what to hold on to. This is normal, but this too shall pass.
"The bad news: nothing lasts forever. The good news: nothing lasts forever." -Unknown
There’s nothing you should have done differently to save the relationship. Always remember the saying, “Everything happens for a reason.” Everyone has different religious or philosophical views on life, but I personally believe that everything we do, everyone we meet, and everything that happens to us, happens for a reason. The relationship the two of you shared had a purpose, and maybe it was time for it to end. The two of you learned what you needed to learn from each other, and now it’s time to move on. You’re so very young right now and there’s an entire world out there for you to travel through.
He isn’t “The One”. I’m sure that while you two were dating, you were head over heels for each other. You thought that all of his nicknames for you were the cutest things in the entire world, you loved the way he walked, and you loved the way he shouted love songs to you across from the driver seat of his truck. That’s great; that’s awesome that you two shared such a loving romance! But you have to realize that for some reason, it didn’t work out. And you’ve got to acknowledge that it isn’t going to work out. If there were hardships the first time, there are probably going to be the same, or worse, hardships the second and third time. You should be proud of the person you dated, and yes, you will love him for quite some time after the breakup, but believe me when I tell you that there is someone better out there. Some guy out there is waiting for you, searching for a girl just like you. He’s going to tell you you’re beautiful so many times that it starts to feel routine (but he’ll still mean it every time), he’s going to ask to give you piggyback rides on random occasions, and he’s going to take care of you and your heart. The right guy won’t do to you what the last guy did.
This isn’t the end for you. Your heart is breaking more than you ever thought was possible, and it’s okay to let it out. Let your eyes sting and let the pages of your journal be soaked in tears. But after you get all of this out of your system, remember that you’re still a great individual. You were beautiful before he ever told you that you were, you were interesting before he ever made you feel like you were, and you will overcome this sadness. Heartbreak is temporary. Life is moving on around you, the Earth is still turning, and it’s just waiting for you to get back out there! Look up crafts on Pinterest and make them with your mom, sister, or best friend. There’s always a cute little kitten or puppy at your local animal shelter that is just waiting for you to claim them as your own. And devoting your time to a certain cause or subject that you’re interested in is a wonderful way to spend all of your new free time. Our mental mindset always affects our physical state, so think positive thoughts and I guarantee that you’ll start to feel more positive.
You weren’t wrong to fall in love. The relationship you two shared wasn’t a waste of your time and it’s okay to think back about the good times you had together. But when you look back next time, don’t think that you should be there, with him again. You’re better where you are now, and so is he. This is your time, girl! Focus on the person you want to be, and the changes you want to make to yourself and the changes you want to make for your world around you. I know that you rock. You know that you rock. And now I think it’s time you go show the rest of the world that too.
“How wrong is it for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself.” –Anais Nin
