So You Feel Like You're Wasting Time

So You Feel Like You're Wasting Time

Don't be OK with being content.

As long as I can remember I have been the type of person that holds a whole lot of regret on her shoulders. I always miss that party that everyone talks about or pick the wrong boys that break my heart. In high school, I did okay. I was vice president of my class, a straight A student, had a decent number of friends, and was an athlete. However, I was never the best at academics nor the star athlete, nor the first person someone would ask to hang out with. I was fun but not the life of the party. I was pretty but not drop dead gorgeous like most of my friends. I was content with my life and that was enough for me because I just kept telling myself that a better time of my life was coming. I convinced myself that my time to shine was college.

My vision of college as a senior in high school was Project X parties every weekend, making out with a new boy every night, having the coolest dorm where everyone hung out, getting in great shape, and having tons of friends. Things didn’t exactly go as planned considering I got a boyfriend (who I love) right before going to college, stopped going to the gym three weeks in, was placed in the oldest and crappiest dorm on campus, made only one friend on my floor, and found out I really don’t love gross frat basements as much as I imagined I would. I ended up going home most weekends and basically hated my freshman year. That was okay though because, again, I kept telling myself next year will be my year.

And again, sophomore year was a little better than the last but not the best time of my life. It was, however, a step up from hating college. I got in to the sorority I wanted, got fantastic grades, went to the mandatory parties that were fun but not super fun, made some pretty great friends (that I was too scared to ever ask to hang out), and went home less. But I still felt like something was missing.

Now here I am, 20 years old, in my junior year of college, wondering if I am wasting too much time being okay with being content. I keep waiting for my time to shine or something to change but I’ve just now figured out that I need to stop waiting for something to change and change myself. Looking back I can see that I have allowed myself to lose two of the best years of my life because I’m too scared to approach that random girl that could have been my best friend freshman year or accept the invitation to that great party that everyone seemed to enjoy so much. I’ve learned that I need to take chances and that people would want to hang out with me if I just asked. So here is to making these last two years of college count and not having any regrets. I will go to every party, take every opportunity I get, and meet as many new people as I can. I will not waste any more time. Life is too short to wait for a better time to come along.

And if I end up just watching Netflix all this year like every other year then maybe next year.

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.

Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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An ode to the little girl raised to be insecure.


They raise little girls to be insecure

Little girls grow to be big girls

People always ask big girls why they're so insecure

Big girls aren't quite sure

Day after day the big girl can't keep up

She's exhausted

Her soul feels worn

The big girl learns to grow hard

In a way, she's a bit stronger

People call her a bitch


What is that?

How can she let that affect her

It's simply the only way to be her

She mourns that little girl

Hoping that one day

She'll be strong

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