You Don't Need Him To Be Happy

You Don't Need Him To Be Happy

You don't like him, you like the idea of him

You don’t like him, you like the idea of him.

Trust me, I know you scroll through the popular page on Instagram and see all these perfect couples. I know you want what you think they have. And that’s why you would give your everything to the first guy that notices you.

I think way too far ahead, like most girls. I don’t know why we do it but even just a simple “hey” makes us think about if we're going to go to your house or ours for Christmas.It drives me crazy and I've realized lately I need to stop worrying so much about the future and enjoy the present.

All my life, I’ve been single because I haven’t met someone worth it all. Until I met the guy who changed my whole perspective on the world.

He treated me so well I didn’t even know I could be treated that good. I realized that it wouldn’t work out between us for different reasons, and instead of staying in the relationship just because I’ve wanted someone my whole life and I had finally found someone who treated me well, I got out of it because I realized I deserve someone who wants to commit and someone who isn’t afraid to lose me.

I made myself believe that he could be the one. I made myself believe that he felt the same way. But he didn’t. I was just another girl to him, while to me he was my future.

I don’t date in this generation just to “date”. I date to marry, and I take it seriously. I want someone who is looking for the same, and he wasn't it. He couldn’t commit to me and that’s okay. And it's okay to leave the relationship because of that. Ladies, you deserve a guy who is 110% down for you, not someone who is unsure if he even sees a future with you.

I know it's easier to stay with him because he makes you happy, and you think that all those times make up for the fact that he won’t commit to you. And it may be easier, and less heartbreaking at the time. But it won't be worth it. You can't force a relationship, and you can't force someone to have the same feelings for you.

What you can do is wait until the right guy comes.

Don’t go looking for a relationship or forcing one, let the right person come to you. You'll find him, trust me. And when you do, fall in love with him... not the idea of him. The right him. The one who is crazy about you and the one who shows you off, and most importantly the one who really gets you and isn’t afraid of loving, and most importantly, losing you.

You don’t need him to be happy.

You don’t need him to feel satisfied.

And you definitely don’t need him because everyone else has a “him”.

I never dated in high school. Not because I didn’t like anyone, but because I chose not to. When I date I am honestly looking for my someone. I knew no one in high school was going to be that someone for me. Some people found their person in high school, and that’s amazing. But for me, it hasn’t happened yet and I’m on my second year in college. And that’s fine.

I thought going to college was going to be amazing and I would find my future husband and we would live happily ever after. I was totally wrong.

Our generation isn’t worried about dating, or even about the future. Don’t get me wrong; there are a few exceptions, like myself. I look around at all these couples and think, are they really happy together, or are they just together because everyone else has someone too? I don’t to let my happiness to depend on a boy. You should learn to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. Having someone is just the icing on top, and loving yourself is what really matters.

And I'm not only speaking for girls, guys: you don’t her to be happy. I know all of your buddies have someone and it can be embarrassing or lonely if you don’t. But don’t settle for easy, find the girl that is worth fighting for. She will be worth it. You deserve the best, and nothing less.

Most importantly, be happy with yourself, learn to love yourself and know how to be single before you get in a relationship. Don’t depend on a guy to make you happy or fill the hole you might have from past relationships, do it yourself. You don’t need him, and he doesn’t deserve you until he shows he's afraid of losing you.

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21 Funniest Pick-Up Lines I've Ever Heard

Are you my appendix? Because I don't understand how you work, but this feeling in my stomach makes me want to take you out.

With Valentine's Day behind us, I spent the day pondering (and researching) some of the greatest pickup lines I've ever heard. I wondered if I could compile a master list and, with a little help from some friends, I did it. Here's what we came up with the 21 funniest pickup lines I have ever heard:

1. "Do you have Acne? Because I want to get Proactive with you."

My best friend/roommate Courtney thought of this and I cried. All credit to her. (She's single, so hit her up.)

2. "Are you my appendix? Because I don't understand how you work, but this feeling in my stomach makes me want to take you out."

Anatomical pick-up lines for the Grey's Anatomy fan in your life.

3. "How much does a polar bear weigh? [How much?] Enough to break the ice....Hi, I'm ___."

For when you just need to find a way to say hello.

4. (Hold out hand) "Would you hold this for me while I go for a walk?"

Simple. Direct. Useful for the cute dog-walker you always see walking at the park.

5. "Is your father Little Caesar? 'Cause you look Hot n' Ready."

Everyone loves pizza.

6. "If you were a transformer, you'd be a hot-bot, and your name would be Optimus Fine."

...Get it?

7. Check the label on their shirt. When they say, "What are you doing?" You say, "Just checking to see if you were made in heaven."

Even if it says "100% cotton," just roll with it.

8. "Can you hold on one second? I have to show you the prettiest girl I've ever seen." (Hold up front-facing camera on phone.)

Someone try this and tell me if it works.

9. "Girl, you're like Mastercard.....priceless."

Keeping it classy.

10. "My friends bet me that I wouldn't start a conversation with the most beautiful girl here. Want to go buy some dinner with their money?"

Makings of a first date 101.

11. "You look familiar. Did we have class together? I could've sworn we had chemistry."

This works even if you're not in a Chem class.

12. *In a museum*. "Hi, I'm ____. I would shake your hand, but that sign says not to touch the masterpieces."

Monet ain't got nothing on you, babe.

13. "Do you have 11 protons? Because you're sodium fine."

Likely to be most effective if the person is a science-lover.

14. "If you were a triangle, you'd be acute one."

Buh-dum tisssss.

15. "Is your name Wifi? Because I'm feeling a strong connection."


16. "There's 21 letters in the alphabet, right? Oh...never mind, I missed u r a qt."

Now I know my ABC's.

17. "On a scale of 1-10, you're a 9. And I'm the 1 you need."

Keep 'em coming.

18. "Are you Physics 212?" [No...] "Well you're something I just couldn't pass."

Particularly useful if you failed a few classes (we won't judge).

19. "Is your face from McDonald's? Because I'm lovin' it."


20. "Do you mind if I walk you home? My mom always told me to follow my dreams."

Mama's boys unite.

21. "You remind me of chapstick....You're the balm."

I gagged a little reading this the first time.

If you happen to try any of these, report back on how they work. Happy Valentine's Day to all.

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The Do's And Don'ts Of Tinder

The official guidelines to the dating app

Ladies and gentleman, I bring to you the official Tinder Do's and Don'ts. Listen up.

Don't just say "hey" or "what's up"

This is Tinder. Don't be boring. It is unlikely you are going to get a response.

Do message first with a cheesy pick up line

Just innocent and funny. Nothing creepy or sexual. And don't be afraid to message first.

Don't only have one picture

Not only blurry group photos. Not only shirtless pics. Have variety!

Do send gifs

Gifs are fun and casual and always lighten the mood!

Don't have a lame bio

Don't to be too serious. Don't be too weird. Don't leave it blank.

Do have pictures with puppies

Nobody swipes left on a puppy. Also, pictures with your little niece will increase your swipes.

Don't ask for phone number right away

She barely knows you. She is going to leave you on seen.

Do use quotes from The Office

She will fall in love.

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