We like the idea of being in a committed serious relationship, after all, it gives us a person who claims to love us forever. We make that person our world, the center of our life. He/she may not be with us every second, but they're in our mind and thoughts. “You are my world, and I am your world.” Unfortunately, hearts break, relationships end. You may not even have had a reason to go your own ways, but sometimes very good things must end. It’s hard, and we all know it. No one said falling in love was easy. When your heart breaks, that little world you made shatters.
In this world full of young adults, I’ve seen many people’s worlds shatter. I’ve seen people cry for months. I’ve seen people lose 20 pounds because they’ve lost someone who they saw a future in. It’s hurtful to see one person ruin all the potential you had. You could’ve been first in your class. You could’ve lived your dream life in New York City. You could’ve danced your way to Mars. You could’ve, but you didn’t. You didn’t because you let him or her ruin you. You let them wreck your self-confidence. You let them come in the way of touching the sky. I guess breakups really do suck because they have the potential to ruin a lot of things. The fact that both of you are not together definitely hurts but the acknowledgement that you can’t move past it sucks even more.
But there’s one truth past all the breakups and heartbreaks, and that is that life goes on. Never forget that there are several billion people in this world and you are crying over one small person. By revolving your life around your boyfriend or girlfriend, you are making your world very, very, very small. You may say you can’t live without him or her. I’m going to say that you can. If your umbilical cord wasn’t attached to this person when you were born, chances are that you’ve lived without this person for at least some portion of your life, thus making you strong enough to continue to live without this person.
Your world shouldn’t end because one person walks out of your life. I’m not saying that it’s not OK to be upset. It is because if you’re not even a little bit upset, maybe you never valued the person after all. I’m just saying that life is a gift, and the world is very big. Go out and explore. Don’t let your world end so quickly. Make it so big that you never run out of people to love. Trust me, if Tinder can broaden its world by simply increasing its radius, you can too.
So today and every day, live life like you're in love, maybe not with a person but at least with life. What leaves and doesn’t come back to you was never yours. It’s harsh, but the truth is sometimes very, very bitter.
You don’t want to be that snowglobe perfect couple. Their world’s pretty small. All they have to look at is each other, and when they fall out of love, all they have left is a broken heart and a stupid circular glass wall that won’t open. Make your world such that there are no walls because you want to be able to touch the sky. Fall in love but don’t confine yourself to one person because no matter how hard you try, the world is just too big to fit into even the largest male or female walking on earth. Make someone a valuable addition to your life, don't make them your life.
