As I am leaving the undergraduate life behind, I have found that the majority of my friends have all found themselves a great guy or girl, and they all seem to be in it for the long haul. I quickly came to the realization that I am one of the few that are still single within my friend group. In a small school like Milligan College, everyone has the idea of "ring before spring" stuck in their head, and oftentimes, I see that people are locking in on relationships that seem hopeless from the start. Yes, some people have found their one true love, which is awesome for them, but not everyone is meant to find their future spouse in college.
Throughout my high school and college years, I was the girl that talked to more than my fair share of guys, but none of them ever lasted. I have found that I am not the girl that is meant to be in a relationship, and I'm not the girl that guys want to date. I'm the girl that guys will flirt with until they get bored. I'm also the girl that does the same thing right back to them, so there are no hard feelings. The chase before the relationship is what intrigues me, but once I've passed that stage, I have no idea what to do.
Although I never seemed to find a guy to date, I always assumed that I would find my future spouse in college. Since I have two weeks left of my college career, I have a feeling that I am not going to accomplish that goal. Finding someone to spend the rest of my life with terrifies me, which probably means that I'm not ready to settle down.
So many young adults are pressured into thinking that they have to get married at a certain age, which in all reality, you should do it whenever you feel it's right. No one should tell you that you are too young or too old to get married. Everyone says that when you find the one, you will know, so why are constantly trying to tell everyone when the right time is?
Whether you get married young or old, it's your decision. No one needs to pressure you into finding love because not everyone is meant to settle down with someone they met in college. You should want to be in a relationship for more reasons than just the fear of being alone, and I have seen too many times that being alone is the main reason for dating. Just because you are single now doesn't mean you're going to be single for the rest of your life.
So what if I'm not graduating with a ring on my finger? I am single and happy. That is all that matters. People are often asking if I'm with someone or when I think I will find someone, and I will continue to answer them with.
Yes, I'm still single and that is just fine.
