So you're still talking to them, right? You haven't cut them off yet? They still text you and call you? They still message you on social media or comment rude stuff? They react to things even though they are the ones that left?

They still go back and forth with their feelings for you? They still cause you anxiety every time they reopen the line of communication with you?

Yeah, I know. I've been there.

It has been over a year since I cut out two extremely toxic people from my life. I had to just say "fuck it" and not care what everyone was going to think of me. I had to say "who cares" if they make shit up about me because they are pissed that I cut them out. What is more important to me; the happiness of myself or what they think and how they feel?

Obviously for me, my own happiness was more important to me. And if you are in the same situation, it should be for you too. CUT THEM OUT.

Step 1. Block their number from texting you or calling you.

Step 2. Delete them on ALL social media accounts (and if you still see stuff that other people share on their behave and it bugs you, Block them so you can't see anything at all of theirs.)

Step 3. Collect everything from them, pictures, clothes, gifts, etc. anything that is constantly in your face regarding them or reminding you (if you have pictures on your phone or laptop, put them on a flash drive and then hide the flash drive and delete the hardcopies off your devices)

Step 4. Also block anyone on social media or over phone, who is going to retaliate in response to your actions towards the person you are mainly blocking.

Step 5. A year later, if you can and decide you want to, you can become friends again if the ugly has passed or if you are capable of having them in your life again. (if not, then do not.)

I know it feels impossible at first, like how can you just erase someone and not feel the pain and just forget it all. Is that even possible? Yes it is.

If you can't do this all in one day or moment, do it over a course of a few days, but you have to do it all.

Slowly you will start to feel free.

Free of the guilt that they are always making you feel.

Free of all the blame they put on you.

Free of all the hassle and complications that comes with them being in your life.

Free of all the pain they cause you with their words or actions.

Free of them.

Slowly you will feel like you again.

You'll begin to realize how much they stole from you.

You'll realize how they made you feel on an every day basis compared to how you feel without them in your life at all.

I know it sounds scary but you CAN do it. Sometimes you just have to rip the bandaid off and cut them out, to save yourself. You CAN save yourself. You are in control of you. The rewards of cutting out toxic people is way worth it in the end anyways.